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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 229480" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Thanks KLMNO--</p><p> </p><p>Your post really touches a few sore spots. I DO blame myself...and many times I DO despise my child. <em>{I almost deleted that sentence...it is painful</em> <em>to admit that a mother could actually resent one of her children...but sometimes I do...}</em> The current psychiatrist, Dr W____, feels that difficult child is merely depressed (<em>quite common in 13-yr-old girls--she says)</em> and that if I wasn't so hard on her...she wouldn't feel the need to lash out at others. She explained that difficult child is only re-enacting the violence that she has experienced from her parents and that we should lay-off the harsh punishments and spanking and just start spending more quality time with her and everything will work out just fine. </p><p> </p><p>I can't even begin to tell you what is wrong with that assessment! <em>We have never laid a finger on her!</em></p><p> </p><p>difficult child was admitted to the psychiatric hospital about six weeks ago after announcing on the school bus that she hated her family so much that she was either going to kill us or herself--she just couldn't decide which. She made such a scene that the bus driver felt compelled to report it <em>{Thank you, God,</em> <em>for that bus driver!!}.</em></p><p> </p><p>However, once admitted, difficult child told psychiatrist that she had just had a bad day because she received a "C" on an English test and was only joking about suicide (never mentioned that she was considering killing the whole family). Dr. J____ (at the psychiatric hospital) felt there was nothing wrong beyond Depression and felt that having difficult child follow up with Dr W____ would be sufficient to keep her Depression under control.</p><p> </p><p>Neuro testing was not even considered--and I <em>begged</em> Dr. J____ for more analysis and tried to relay some of our experiences at home....but clearly, it came down to difficult child's version of life vs mine and I was pronounced a bad, unfeeling Mom who does not spend any time with the children.</p><p> </p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry for venting....</p><p> </p><p>I am definitely going to put together a "Parent Report". Maybe they will take me a little more seriously...?</p><p> </p><p>In the meantime, her father and I remain on guard against violence in our home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 229480, member: 6546"] Thanks KLMNO-- Your post really touches a few sore spots. I DO blame myself...and many times I DO despise my child. [I]{I almost deleted that sentence...it is painful[/I] [I]to admit that a mother could actually resent one of her children...but sometimes I do...}[/I] The current psychiatrist, Dr W____, feels that difficult child is merely depressed ([I]quite common in 13-yr-old girls--she says)[/I] and that if I wasn't so hard on her...she wouldn't feel the need to lash out at others. She explained that difficult child is only re-enacting the violence that she has experienced from her parents and that we should lay-off the harsh punishments and spanking and just start spending more quality time with her and everything will work out just fine. I can't even begin to tell you what is wrong with that assessment! [I]We have never laid a finger on her![/I] difficult child was admitted to the psychiatric hospital about six weeks ago after announcing on the school bus that she hated her family so much that she was either going to kill us or herself--she just couldn't decide which. She made such a scene that the bus driver felt compelled to report it [I]{Thank you, God,[/I] [I]for that bus driver!!}.[/I] However, once admitted, difficult child told psychiatrist that she had just had a bad day because she received a "C" on an English test and was only joking about suicide (never mentioned that she was considering killing the whole family). Dr. J____ (at the psychiatric hospital) felt there was nothing wrong beyond Depression and felt that having difficult child follow up with Dr W____ would be sufficient to keep her Depression under control. Neuro testing was not even considered--and I [I]begged[/I] Dr. J____ for more analysis and tried to relay some of our experiences at home....but clearly, it came down to difficult child's version of life vs mine and I was pronounced a bad, unfeeling Mom who does not spend any time with the children. :frowny: I'm sorry for venting.... I am definitely going to put together a "Parent Report". Maybe they will take me a little more seriously...? In the meantime, her father and I remain on guard against violence in our home. [/QUOTE]
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