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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 229586" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Thanks for sharing your experience!</p><p> </p><p>It is definitely helpful to hear from someone who has been there. I am still very much a "newbie" at navigating all these professional services and apparantly, also very naive...believing that an "expert" would have all the answers.</p><p> </p><p>I have long suspected that the cruelty issues were indicative of something far more serious than ADD....</p><p> </p><p>As far as therapy goes--the upshot of being termed a "bad, unfeeling mother" is that Dr J______ proscribed joint therapy for difficult child and me (<em>so that I can learn how to share my emotions and be a more nurturing</em> <em>mother</em>....). So now I have a front-row seat for some of the things the therapist has been (or not been) working on...and I quickly discovered that difficult child has not shared any of her major issues with the therapist. (But she has certainly been telling tales of all the terrible things that everyone else does) I finally had a chance to bring up the physical abuse of her brother, her constant disrespect of members of the family, the anger, the outbursts, etc etc.</p><p> </p><p>In the last few therapy sessions, however, difficult child's answers to questions have been getting shorter and shorter. As in "<em>I don't know</em>...", "<em>I don't</em> <em>remember</em>...." or "<em>I guess</em>..."</p><p> </p><p>And it feels like we are quickly heading toward a dead end...(although the therapist is beginning to agree that Dr W_____ is wrong about the Depression diagnosis, and that any problems in the mother/daughter relationship are NOT the results of my callousness or neglect.).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 229586, member: 6546"] Thanks for sharing your experience! It is definitely helpful to hear from someone who has been there. I am still very much a "newbie" at navigating all these professional services and apparantly, also very naive...believing that an "expert" would have all the answers. I have long suspected that the cruelty issues were indicative of something far more serious than ADD.... As far as therapy goes--the upshot of being termed a "bad, unfeeling mother" is that Dr J______ proscribed joint therapy for difficult child and me ([I]so that I can learn how to share my emotions and be a more nurturing[/I] [I]mother[/I]....). So now I have a front-row seat for some of the things the therapist has been (or not been) working on...and I quickly discovered that difficult child has not shared any of her major issues with the therapist. (But she has certainly been telling tales of all the terrible things that everyone else does) I finally had a chance to bring up the physical abuse of her brother, her constant disrespect of members of the family, the anger, the outbursts, etc etc. In the last few therapy sessions, however, difficult child's answers to questions have been getting shorter and shorter. As in "[I]I don't know[/I]...", "[I]I don't[/I] [I]remember[/I]...." or "[I]I guess[/I]..." And it feels like we are quickly heading toward a dead end...(although the therapist is beginning to agree that Dr W_____ is wrong about the Depression diagnosis, and that any problems in the mother/daughter relationship are NOT the results of my callousness or neglect.). [/QUOTE]
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