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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 402914" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Great question, Fran. Where we live there are no support services available. The closest AS program is 1.5 hours away. I am basically out of the picture since his GFGmom took him to her house before his senior year. What I have done is keep him going to Voc/Rehab which linked him to a woman who helps him find employment (and provides supports like your son some years ago although not that sophisticated). He has been floundering since he moved out of our home three years ago. He had no hands on guidance or support from his Mom. She is chaotic and just doesn't "get it". Furthrmore, she absolutely does not want him living at her house. Her favorite statement is "he is an adult and needs to be on his own", As has been her way of life she robs Peter to pay Paul and borrows from others to stay afloat. husband and I are actually suprised that she is covering expenses to keep him in the apt. waiting for his reinstatement. </p><p> </p><p>I am doing all I can do. Of course, it is not enough. I make sure he gets to his mental health counseling sessions which GFGmom finally got arranged at a clinic one city N of us. He "likes" his counselor but based on what I've ben able to find out the counselor is not really adequately trained for complex issues like his. I think he just likes having someone who will listen to him....regardless of how pointless his ramblings may be. The clinic is also prescribing his medications (and have added one) and although I don't know so...I don't think they have a qualified psychiatrist who is calling the shots. </p><p> </p><p>He is attached to me and husband. He is more attached to his GFGmom. Her way is to leave him be and then jump in when an obvious crisis presents. With money, for example, both husband and I have spent time alone with him explaining how he will or could benefit from having one of us on a joint account. He appears to see the rationale <strong>but </strong>he prefers the idea of his Mom taking his check, paying the bills and then giving him some spending money which he uses to buy cigarettes and power drinks and treats for others. Arg! There is a complete lack of direction. It's all impulse...just like Mom.</p><p> </p><p>I am calling the job coach with leads for her to explore. I am asking him if he is taking his medications. (He's taking them most of the time <strong>but </strong>evidently is taking them all together when he wakes up which is often afternoon since he stays up all night with girlfriend and company(. Can you imagine? He's taking his ADHD medication, his risperdal and his sleep medications all at once! Yikes.</p><p> </p><p>It is a very ugly and dangerous situation but I don't think I can do more. husband and I really can not invite him to come home because we are using all our energy working each day and hit the hay around 8 at night. It just wouldn't work. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 402914, member: 35"] Great question, Fran. Where we live there are no support services available. The closest AS program is 1.5 hours away. I am basically out of the picture since his GFGmom took him to her house before his senior year. What I have done is keep him going to Voc/Rehab which linked him to a woman who helps him find employment (and provides supports like your son some years ago although not that sophisticated). He has been floundering since he moved out of our home three years ago. He had no hands on guidance or support from his Mom. She is chaotic and just doesn't "get it". Furthrmore, she absolutely does not want him living at her house. Her favorite statement is "he is an adult and needs to be on his own", As has been her way of life she robs Peter to pay Paul and borrows from others to stay afloat. husband and I are actually suprised that she is covering expenses to keep him in the apt. waiting for his reinstatement. I am doing all I can do. Of course, it is not enough. I make sure he gets to his mental health counseling sessions which GFGmom finally got arranged at a clinic one city N of us. He "likes" his counselor but based on what I've ben able to find out the counselor is not really adequately trained for complex issues like his. I think he just likes having someone who will listen to him....regardless of how pointless his ramblings may be. The clinic is also prescribing his medications (and have added one) and although I don't know so...I don't think they have a qualified psychiatrist who is calling the shots. He is attached to me and husband. He is more attached to his GFGmom. Her way is to leave him be and then jump in when an obvious crisis presents. With money, for example, both husband and I have spent time alone with him explaining how he will or could benefit from having one of us on a joint account. He appears to see the rationale [B]but [/B]he prefers the idea of his Mom taking his check, paying the bills and then giving him some spending money which he uses to buy cigarettes and power drinks and treats for others. Arg! There is a complete lack of direction. It's all impulse...just like Mom. I am calling the job coach with leads for her to explore. I am asking him if he is taking his medications. (He's taking them most of the time [B]but [/B]evidently is taking them all together when he wakes up which is often afternoon since he stays up all night with girlfriend and company(. Can you imagine? He's taking his ADHD medication, his risperdal and his sleep medications all at once! Yikes. It is a very ugly and dangerous situation but I don't think I can do more. husband and I really can not invite him to come home because we are using all our energy working each day and hit the hay around 8 at night. It just wouldn't work. DDD [/QUOTE]
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