Karisma-
Regarding him pulling away from you, try to not take this personally as this might be a good thing and exactly what he needs to do. I was told that many addicts in their 20s still haven't detached from their mother.
Until this is successfully accomplished by them, they can and will remain stuck at their current & stunted emotional level. This is usually many, many years behind.
For instance, in my opinion, the current age of emotional maturity for my almost 24yo son, is maybe 16-17.
He even recently, made a joke & was giggling, that he has "mommy issues". This was not and is not funny to me.
I want him to be completely free of mommy issues for his own future happiness. If for him to accomplish this means that I don't hear from him for months, even longer, but it helps him to move forward in sobriety, I would take that in a nano second...as someone said.
All I want is for him to be "happy", whatever that word means for him.
