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A former friend called me toxic. What does that mean, exactly?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 657993" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>With what is going on with my ex-sibs and reading all the boards about "narcicistis" I have come to loathe these labels and the advice that is to get rid of them. This is advice that will change. It's just the flavor of the day.</p><p></p><p>CG, you are not toxic. Your "friend" is thinking up some reason to dump you that probably has more to do with her than you. If she is in therapy, her therapist is likely singing to the band and talking about how anyone who EVER gives her a bit of a hard time should be gone from her life. With this advice (and I hear it from my own therapist too), nobody will have ANY friends or family...lol. It is rare for anyone you associate with to never annoy you, bug you, even argue with you. </p><p></p><p>Toxic to me is an abusive term I've come to dislike. </p><p></p><p>Look, if somebody wants you not to be in their life, just do it. It's probably to YOUR advantage too. Don't take it personally. It is what we are preached at when we are in therapy. I find therapy very helpful, but I also take what I find helpful and leave the rest too. I told my therapist how much I am starting to loathe those new words that DO dehumanize people I once loved. They are STILL people. </p><p></p><p>You are sweet and good and your friend has issues.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 657993, member: 1550"] With what is going on with my ex-sibs and reading all the boards about "narcicistis" I have come to loathe these labels and the advice that is to get rid of them. This is advice that will change. It's just the flavor of the day. CG, you are not toxic. Your "friend" is thinking up some reason to dump you that probably has more to do with her than you. If she is in therapy, her therapist is likely singing to the band and talking about how anyone who EVER gives her a bit of a hard time should be gone from her life. With this advice (and I hear it from my own therapist too), nobody will have ANY friends or family...lol. It is rare for anyone you associate with to never annoy you, bug you, even argue with you. Toxic to me is an abusive term I've come to dislike. Look, if somebody wants you not to be in their life, just do it. It's probably to YOUR advantage too. Don't take it personally. It is what we are preached at when we are in therapy. I find therapy very helpful, but I also take what I find helpful and leave the rest too. I told my therapist how much I am starting to loathe those new words that DO dehumanize people I once loved. They are STILL people. You are sweet and good and your friend has issues. [/QUOTE]
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