Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
A Job? School? Me? A baby sounds like a good solution.
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 548964" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I have to agree with the others, it's time to give her a deadline to get a job.. a real job. I think quite honestly that her helping around the house and being respectful to you is manipulative at this point. She figures as long as she does that, you'll have no reason to kick her out. Time to up the ante by requiring a job. You can't make her get a job, but you can put the decision squarely in her lap.... if she chooses not to work, she chooses homelessness. You have to be ready to follow through on the threat, however, or it's meaningless. If you're not ready to take that step, to truly kick her out if she doesn't have a job by a deadline, then I don't know what to tell you. It's not easy, I know. </p><p></p><p>The only advice I have for you re the potential pregnancy is to do your best to detach from that as well. I know first hand how difficult that is, when you're thinking of the life of an innocent child -- I've lived through it twice with Youngest. I know I can't and won't raise my grandchildren, for my own reasons. I've been through some incredibly stressful and heartbreaking years because of that.. but as of now, Youngest has grown up a great deal and is mostly making appropriate decisions for her children. I've really had to learn to Let Go and Let God in that area.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 548964, member: 1157"] I have to agree with the others, it's time to give her a deadline to get a job.. a real job. I think quite honestly that her helping around the house and being respectful to you is manipulative at this point. She figures as long as she does that, you'll have no reason to kick her out. Time to up the ante by requiring a job. You can't make her get a job, but you can put the decision squarely in her lap.... if she chooses not to work, she chooses homelessness. You have to be ready to follow through on the threat, however, or it's meaningless. If you're not ready to take that step, to truly kick her out if she doesn't have a job by a deadline, then I don't know what to tell you. It's not easy, I know. The only advice I have for you re the potential pregnancy is to do your best to detach from that as well. I know first hand how difficult that is, when you're thinking of the life of an innocent child -- I've lived through it twice with Youngest. I know I can't and won't raise my grandchildren, for my own reasons. I've been through some incredibly stressful and heartbreaking years because of that.. but as of now, Youngest has grown up a great deal and is mostly making appropriate decisions for her children. I've really had to learn to Let Go and Let God in that area. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
A Job? School? Me? A baby sounds like a good solution.
Top