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<blockquote data-quote="Toomanytears" data-source="post: 744526" data-attributes="member: 22580"><p>Thank you Copa.. </p><p></p><p>I’m sitting here tonight with tears running down my cheeks, feeling like I want to punch something or scream to the heavens for an acceptable answer to this misery. </p><p></p><p>Son is still not home. I had my 58th birthday yesterday .. my husband used that as “leverage” to try and get him on a plane. </p><p>We thought it was working. He gets to the airport and no ID - wallet is gone with ID? Left it in Uber? Left it at girlfriend’s? In hotel? Missed flight got a credit ... </p><p>He heads back to girlfriend’s home. That was last week. </p><p></p><p>Newest saga...girlfriend “can’t take care of her kids any more ( 6 & 15 yrs). Apparently, while she was up here over Thanksgiving, her father contacted her ex-husband ( that’s not official yet either) to see if he wanted the children after not seeing them or paying support for the past year. </p><p>Rumor has it he wants the house, the kids and she needs to get out. She has paid mortgage for the past year and is packing up to leave. None of this makes any sense - I am NOT an idiot!</p><p></p><p>Re: son being 1100 miles away again..blame goes to both. I can’t argue the fact HE decided to up and leave. I also can not accept her excuse that she was “ helping him” & “ doing what was best for him”. I call BS. He had no way of getting there if she didn’t pay for ticket or an Uber to the flight. </p><p> She’s losing everything and now... are you ready ?? </p><p>She wants to come back with him to be near us because she loves us and she has no one. He won’t leave her alone/behind for the holidays. </p><p></p><p>I consider myself to be a very caring & empathetic individual... BUT I can’t and won’t be sucked in to this web of deceit. I have not answered her calls, her texts begging me to listen to her side or her texts to my husband saying how much she misses our conversations. She reminds us of all she has done to help our son because she wanted to. Also, the times she offered help without anyone asking and now she needs help and she’s asking for us to open our hearts. It’s tearing me up but at the same time making me so ANGRY. </p><p></p><p>Son has less than 30 days to get home for sentencing. No suboxone. I believe he is going through withdraw as we speak ( a good thing before heading to prison) or is he supplementing with something worse? His choices, right? </p><p></p><p>The saddest part, I took our grandson shopping and he picked out his gifts for everyone, we had a “ wrapping class”</p><p>and he placed his gifts under the tree waiting for his daddy to open them. My heart is broken.</p><p></p><p>I’ve lived through the suicide of my big brother ( my only brother) and taken care of both my parents at home with terminal illnesses and held their hands til their last breath (with the help of my daughter & husband).</p><p> I have to say this journey of addiction supersedes it all ~ it has just about done me in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Toomanytears, post: 744526, member: 22580"] Thank you Copa.. I’m sitting here tonight with tears running down my cheeks, feeling like I want to punch something or scream to the heavens for an acceptable answer to this misery. Son is still not home. I had my 58th birthday yesterday .. my husband used that as “leverage” to try and get him on a plane. We thought it was working. He gets to the airport and no ID - wallet is gone with ID? Left it in Uber? Left it at girlfriend’s? In hotel? Missed flight got a credit ... He heads back to girlfriend’s home. That was last week. Newest saga...girlfriend “can’t take care of her kids any more ( 6 & 15 yrs). Apparently, while she was up here over Thanksgiving, her father contacted her ex-husband ( that’s not official yet either) to see if he wanted the children after not seeing them or paying support for the past year. Rumor has it he wants the house, the kids and she needs to get out. She has paid mortgage for the past year and is packing up to leave. None of this makes any sense - I am NOT an idiot! Re: son being 1100 miles away again..blame goes to both. I can’t argue the fact HE decided to up and leave. I also can not accept her excuse that she was “ helping him” & “ doing what was best for him”. I call BS. He had no way of getting there if she didn’t pay for ticket or an Uber to the flight. She’s losing everything and now... are you ready ?? She wants to come back with him to be near us because she loves us and she has no one. He won’t leave her alone/behind for the holidays. I consider myself to be a very caring & empathetic individual... BUT I can’t and won’t be sucked in to this web of deceit. I have not answered her calls, her texts begging me to listen to her side or her texts to my husband saying how much she misses our conversations. She reminds us of all she has done to help our son because she wanted to. Also, the times she offered help without anyone asking and now she needs help and she’s asking for us to open our hearts. It’s tearing me up but at the same time making me so ANGRY. Son has less than 30 days to get home for sentencing. No suboxone. I believe he is going through withdraw as we speak ( a good thing before heading to prison) or is he supplementing with something worse? His choices, right? The saddest part, I took our grandson shopping and he picked out his gifts for everyone, we had a “ wrapping class” and he placed his gifts under the tree waiting for his daddy to open them. My heart is broken. I’ve lived through the suicide of my big brother ( my only brother) and taken care of both my parents at home with terminal illnesses and held their hands til their last breath (with the help of my daughter & husband). I have to say this journey of addiction supersedes it all ~ it has just about done me in. [/QUOTE]
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