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A letter to my son in jail
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 665033" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If u are writing for yourself, fine. If u are writing becsuse you hope it will make him finally "see" you will likely be disappointed. Letters are often not even read or get them angrier with adult child twisting your words agsinst you. The power an emotional, heafelt letter would have on us is lost on most Difficult Child.</p><p>If u are clear that the letter wont change him or help him see your point of view then send it with low expectstions. If u realize its just therapeutic for u maybe write letters or journal for your own healing but dont send them.</p><p>I had loving letters turned on me so be careful.</p><p>He will change on his own if he is ready and he will let you know. And you eill see a huge change in him in every part of his life.</p><p>Im a believer in less is more. I am learning that the less we say the less dysfunctional people can use against us. Often the use our words as s launching pad for verbal abuse.</p><p>I made a huge change in my life by usinf few words. I was once big on explaining and sending letters and emails. I learned it works better for me not to give long explanations about my point of view.</p><p>Do what is best for you. But do it for YOU. You will not change your son.</p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 665033, member: 1550"] If u are writing for yourself, fine. If u are writing becsuse you hope it will make him finally "see" you will likely be disappointed. Letters are often not even read or get them angrier with adult child twisting your words agsinst you. The power an emotional, heafelt letter would have on us is lost on most Difficult Child. If u are clear that the letter wont change him or help him see your point of view then send it with low expectstions. If u realize its just therapeutic for u maybe write letters or journal for your own healing but dont send them. I had loving letters turned on me so be careful. He will change on his own if he is ready and he will let you know. And you eill see a huge change in him in every part of his life. Im a believer in less is more. I am learning that the less we say the less dysfunctional people can use against us. Often the use our words as s launching pad for verbal abuse. I made a huge change in my life by usinf few words. I was once big on explaining and sending letters and emails. I learned it works better for me not to give long explanations about my point of view. Do what is best for you. But do it for YOU. You will not change your son. Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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