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<blockquote data-quote="DavidWH" data-source="post: 105912" data-attributes="member: 4398"><p>Hello all.. I am still around reading each AM and PM when I get home from my work!! Wow how mice is that to say after a year of no work! I again want to say thanks.. this board is helping me each day just to get through the thoughts with out my boogie here... I will talk to him tonight for a whole 5 mins.. but am going to put this letter I wrote him.. I thought it would be something others can read and maybe give yea's or Ney's on why you say that to him or what ever.. you know what I mean? </p><p></p><p><em>12-10-07</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Hello Boogie!!!</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Well it is Monday morning I am sitting here drinking my coffee... got to get up and ready for </em></p><p><em>work here in a few mins. Had a rough night last night... for some reason BJ got up at midnight</em></p><p><em>and was caughing real bad.. she was running back and forth from bedroom to the kitchen, </em></p><p><em>maybe drinking water not sure but she could not stop caughing and this went on until 2.30AM</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>She seems fine this morning but is still sleeping so I am sure she is very tired.. But of course</em></p><p><em>I walk into the kitchen this morning and she had pooped all over the kitchen.. YUK!! But she did eat</em></p><p><em>allot yesterday.. I gave her Tuna Fish water in her food and boy did she like that.. she ate up almost</em></p><p><em>the whole bowl of dog food. And then earlier she had eaten a easy child of left over pizza, but not the bread</em></p><p><em>part, I took off the toppings and gave it all to her... she loved that of course.. so she had a full belly</em></p><p><em>and I guess just had to poop all over just to feel better, since I did not get up with her and take her out.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>It is going to be hot all week.. I hope your not still wearing your long underwear still... your gonna </em></p><p><em>burn up all day.. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>What did you decide to do about your teeth? Are you doing as I suggested and just deal with</em></p><p><em>brushing with your water bottle like everyone else is because it is how it is done? Or still doing </em></p><p><em>what you told me you were doing?.. Please be doing the right thing.. just because it is the right thing ok?</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Well I wish you luck on your GM level.. I will not know if you got it till you call me Wednesday night.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>I know Will is leaving soon and I know you had said you wanted to stay in contact with him, if you want</em></p><p><em>and he wants since your are not going to be able to write him until you get your RGM level you can give </em></p><p><em>him the house address here and I can write him to let him know how you are doing or just keep his</em></p><p><em>letters till you get your RGM. Just an idea if you want to be able to be friends after you come home.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>I know you talked about things you know you feel you will be able to handle when you come home..</em></p><p><em>I will give you some other things that are very important to think about.. that will need to be done.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>One thing you have to remember is your reaction to things that do not go your way, as you know our here </em></p><p><em>in the real world kids at school are not so nice, teachers and the principle are not so nice, they have</em></p><p><em>lots of kids to worry about and you will not have the one on one time you have at TSNC with them, this</em></p><p><em>is just a fact that we all deal with when we are in school. What happens when someone says something</em></p><p><em>rude to you or a Teacher tells you no about something.. you have to decide how you are going</em></p><p><em>to deal with the answer you get. No question you are a bright kid and deserve to be treated well,</em></p><p><em>however not everyone knows how bright you are and they are not going to be a nice to you as you </em></p><p><em>want them to be. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>You are not going to be able to have the fast impulses getting back at someone or if something is </em></p><p><em>not going your way. As you know the impulses are what gets you into trouble, even at TSNC you</em></p><p><em>have had a hard time with it. So if you can show everyone you can do it there and practice it </em></p><p><em>everyday then it will be much better when you come home for good, TSNC is teaching you how</em></p><p><em>to use the tools to do the right things, those tools they are teaching you are being burned into your</em></p><p><em>brain so you do not ever go back to the same problems you had when you were home.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>You will also need to be more a part of the "team" be a active participant in things, you know what I mean.</em></p><p><em>Part of you going up for the next level is all of these little things, as they ask you too talk to other kids</em></p><p><em>about why your there, ask them what they did before coming to TSNC and how they think they will handle</em></p><p><em>things when they leave, guys like Will and Adam. Never be afraid to open yourself up take a risk and </em></p><p><em>put yourself out there, it is OK to have weakness for something you are human and every human in the </em></p><p><em>world has weakness's. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Arguing with adults.. as you know it gets you know where you have never accomplished anything by </em></p><p><em>soing so. As much as you may not like something there is a reason your being told or asked to </em></p><p><em>do it or whatever. If you disagree then there is nothing wrong with being respectful and bringing it up.</em></p><p><em>Or asking for clarification as to why something is the way it is. You much more abt to understand if</em></p><p><em>they are willing to talk about it with you, but by being mean or ugly and disrespectful, you just ensure </em></p><p><em>they will just force you to do what ever it is they have said, and even if you are doing the right thing</em></p><p><em>by asking in the right way, you still may have to do exaclty as they say.. it is life it is the way it is, as </em></p><p><em>much as you may not like it.. it is what it is.. Even President Bush.. must do as he should he has </em></p><p><em>rules he has to follow he is not allowed just to do as he wants... if he does he will be in big trouble</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>I know you can do all of this Justin... and as soon as I know you can come home and have success</em></p><p><em>then I will be showing up to get you. I miss you very much.. but one thing to remember TSNC should </em></p><p><em>be your last stop... no more nothing..</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Remember, I told you a long time ago.. Justin if you keep acting this way your going to end up in jail.</em></p><p><em>where did you end up?</em></p><p><em>Then I said Justin if you do not get things right your going to go to boot camp or a Wilderness camp, </em></p><p><em>and where are you now..?</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>You have to trust me Justin, trust me with your life... I would die for you to make sure you are 100%</em></p><p><em>successful in your life.. I will guide you and teach you... I only ask that you allow me to help you be</em></p><p><em>much better than me.. I made the mistakes and I am still living with them and will forever, I do not </em></p><p><em>want you to have to. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Most kids in your posistion go from one camp to the next then to boot camp or taining school... I </em></p><p><em>do not want this for you.. I want you to do and listen to the good that TSNC has to give you and </em></p><p><em>you take advantage of the opportunity you have been given.... Not all kids get the chnace you have</em></p><p><em>now.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Remember.. I have always said.. you have a choice of two roads to go down in life.. what one do</em></p><p><em>you want to travel?????</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>You took the wrong one in the past (by getting you in jail and tsnc, by running away while at tsnc ect...)</em></p><p><em>but you can still at this point in your life try to understand what I am saying by what road do you want,</em></p><p><em>and make a U-turn and come back to the road that is the one you really want.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>School... I only need to say one thing... you will NOT be what you want to be in life, with out being </em></p><p><em>successful in school. Plain and simple... </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>I am proud of the progrss you have made.. keep it up... I look forward to the day you come home and</em></p><p><em>you and I can be a real Father/Son and do all we can to have a great time during the last few years you</em></p><p><em>have to be home with me. We have alot to do... I have a lot to teach you... life is a never ending lesson</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Never ever forget. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH... you will never know how much I love you .. until you have a</em></p><p><em>child of your own... </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Dad</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DavidWH, post: 105912, member: 4398"] Hello all.. I am still around reading each AM and PM when I get home from my work!! Wow how mice is that to say after a year of no work! I again want to say thanks.. this board is helping me each day just to get through the thoughts with out my boogie here... I will talk to him tonight for a whole 5 mins.. but am going to put this letter I wrote him.. I thought it would be something others can read and maybe give yea's or Ney's on why you say that to him or what ever.. you know what I mean? [i]12-10-07 Hello Boogie!!! Well it is Monday morning I am sitting here drinking my coffee... got to get up and ready for work here in a few mins. Had a rough night last night... for some reason BJ got up at midnight and was caughing real bad.. she was running back and forth from bedroom to the kitchen, maybe drinking water not sure but she could not stop caughing and this went on until 2.30AM She seems fine this morning but is still sleeping so I am sure she is very tired.. But of course I walk into the kitchen this morning and she had pooped all over the kitchen.. YUK!! But she did eat allot yesterday.. I gave her Tuna Fish water in her food and boy did she like that.. she ate up almost the whole bowl of dog food. And then earlier she had eaten a easy child of left over pizza, but not the bread part, I took off the toppings and gave it all to her... she loved that of course.. so she had a full belly and I guess just had to poop all over just to feel better, since I did not get up with her and take her out. It is going to be hot all week.. I hope your not still wearing your long underwear still... your gonna burn up all day.. What did you decide to do about your teeth? Are you doing as I suggested and just deal with brushing with your water bottle like everyone else is because it is how it is done? Or still doing what you told me you were doing?.. Please be doing the right thing.. just because it is the right thing ok? Well I wish you luck on your GM level.. I will not know if you got it till you call me Wednesday night. I know Will is leaving soon and I know you had said you wanted to stay in contact with him, if you want and he wants since your are not going to be able to write him until you get your RGM level you can give him the house address here and I can write him to let him know how you are doing or just keep his letters till you get your RGM. Just an idea if you want to be able to be friends after you come home. I know you talked about things you know you feel you will be able to handle when you come home.. I will give you some other things that are very important to think about.. that will need to be done. One thing you have to remember is your reaction to things that do not go your way, as you know our here in the real world kids at school are not so nice, teachers and the principle are not so nice, they have lots of kids to worry about and you will not have the one on one time you have at TSNC with them, this is just a fact that we all deal with when we are in school. What happens when someone says something rude to you or a Teacher tells you no about something.. you have to decide how you are going to deal with the answer you get. No question you are a bright kid and deserve to be treated well, however not everyone knows how bright you are and they are not going to be a nice to you as you want them to be. You are not going to be able to have the fast impulses getting back at someone or if something is not going your way. As you know the impulses are what gets you into trouble, even at TSNC you have had a hard time with it. So if you can show everyone you can do it there and practice it everyday then it will be much better when you come home for good, TSNC is teaching you how to use the tools to do the right things, those tools they are teaching you are being burned into your brain so you do not ever go back to the same problems you had when you were home. You will also need to be more a part of the "team" be a active participant in things, you know what I mean. Part of you going up for the next level is all of these little things, as they ask you too talk to other kids about why your there, ask them what they did before coming to TSNC and how they think they will handle things when they leave, guys like Will and Adam. Never be afraid to open yourself up take a risk and put yourself out there, it is OK to have weakness for something you are human and every human in the world has weakness's. Arguing with adults.. as you know it gets you know where you have never accomplished anything by soing so. As much as you may not like something there is a reason your being told or asked to do it or whatever. If you disagree then there is nothing wrong with being respectful and bringing it up. Or asking for clarification as to why something is the way it is. You much more abt to understand if they are willing to talk about it with you, but by being mean or ugly and disrespectful, you just ensure they will just force you to do what ever it is they have said, and even if you are doing the right thing by asking in the right way, you still may have to do exaclty as they say.. it is life it is the way it is, as much as you may not like it.. it is what it is.. Even President Bush.. must do as he should he has rules he has to follow he is not allowed just to do as he wants... if he does he will be in big trouble I know you can do all of this Justin... and as soon as I know you can come home and have success then I will be showing up to get you. I miss you very much.. but one thing to remember TSNC should be your last stop... no more nothing.. Remember, I told you a long time ago.. Justin if you keep acting this way your going to end up in jail. where did you end up? Then I said Justin if you do not get things right your going to go to boot camp or a Wilderness camp, and where are you now..? You have to trust me Justin, trust me with your life... I would die for you to make sure you are 100% successful in your life.. I will guide you and teach you... I only ask that you allow me to help you be much better than me.. I made the mistakes and I am still living with them and will forever, I do not want you to have to. Most kids in your posistion go from one camp to the next then to boot camp or taining school... I do not want this for you.. I want you to do and listen to the good that TSNC has to give you and you take advantage of the opportunity you have been given.... Not all kids get the chnace you have now. Remember.. I have always said.. you have a choice of two roads to go down in life.. what one do you want to travel????? You took the wrong one in the past (by getting you in jail and tsnc, by running away while at tsnc ect...) but you can still at this point in your life try to understand what I am saying by what road do you want, and make a U-turn and come back to the road that is the one you really want. School... I only need to say one thing... you will NOT be what you want to be in life, with out being successful in school. Plain and simple... I am proud of the progrss you have made.. keep it up... I look forward to the day you come home and you and I can be a real Father/Son and do all we can to have a great time during the last few years you have to be home with me. We have alot to do... I have a lot to teach you... life is a never ending lesson Never ever forget. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH... you will never know how much I love you .. until you have a child of your own... Dad[/i] [/QUOTE]
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