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A little hope...and some things I wish I did not know
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 739871" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Oh Elsie, this is tough stuff to deal with. On the one hand, S off the rails choices is a vivid picture for C of what this lifestyle can entail. Hopefully, he will use that as a catalyst for change.</p><p>I don’t know what is more difficult, knowing, or not knowing. Like you, I have two waywards. My eldest, moved to approach me over her younger sisters “feral” activities and urge me not to bail her out of jail “for her own good”. </p><p>Similar to your story, I had heard from my nephew that Tornado knew how to “get what she needs” from partying with men. Her cousin tried to cushion it with “Oh but aunty, it’s not like <em>that.....” </em></p><p>When news like this hits us like a ton of bricks it is really important to be extra kind to ourselves and take time out to process through it.</p><p> I wished like you, that I could grab my two up and force them into rehab, something, anything but the homeless life they are living and all that entails. Unfortunately, they have to be ready and willing for change.</p><p>Until then, it is really important to stay focused on self care and add to our toolbox. We have no control over our d cs choices, but we can learn to navigate our own paths and shine a proverbial beacon through our own choice to live well, despite the paths our adult kids walk. Hopefully one day, they will come to their senses.</p><p>Right now, your son is learning a powerful lesson.</p><p>I hope that your daughter will wake up and realize there are better ways to live.</p><p>I am so sorry for the pain of this. I do know how it feels. Take time for yourself, and keep soldiering on. You are not alone.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 739871, member: 19522"] Oh Elsie, this is tough stuff to deal with. On the one hand, S off the rails choices is a vivid picture for C of what this lifestyle can entail. Hopefully, he will use that as a catalyst for change. I don’t know what is more difficult, knowing, or not knowing. Like you, I have two waywards. My eldest, moved to approach me over her younger sisters “feral” activities and urge me not to bail her out of jail “for her own good”. Similar to your story, I had heard from my nephew that Tornado knew how to “get what she needs” from partying with men. Her cousin tried to cushion it with “Oh but aunty, it’s not like [I]that.....” [/I] When news like this hits us like a ton of bricks it is really important to be extra kind to ourselves and take time out to process through it. I wished like you, that I could grab my two up and force them into rehab, something, anything but the homeless life they are living and all that entails. Unfortunately, they have to be ready and willing for change. Until then, it is really important to stay focused on self care and add to our toolbox. We have no control over our d cs choices, but we can learn to navigate our own paths and shine a proverbial beacon through our own choice to live well, despite the paths our adult kids walk. Hopefully one day, they will come to their senses. Right now, your son is learning a powerful lesson. I hope that your daughter will wake up and realize there are better ways to live. I am so sorry for the pain of this. I do know how it feels. Take time for yourself, and keep soldiering on. You are not alone. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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