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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 662756" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SWOT I believe in work. I believe one does what one has to.</p><p>I accept he needs this money, but at the same time I have seen him work a full time job and keep it for over a year. I know he has it within him do to this again.</p><p></p><p>I am against anything that acts as a barrier to his doing so, doing what he can do.</p><p></p><p>There are sheltered work programs. There are supports available to work or study through Dept of Rehab. Job Corps accepts disabled people and trains them.</p><p></p><p>All of these options are available to him. That he not feel like working does not impress me. Neither do I. And that is hurting me, that I have the means to indulge my fear.</p><p></p><p>All the free money is doing for my son is permitting him to indulge himself, to read more conspiracy theories, to live marginally, to run from county to county, couch to couch. Living this way is causing him to feel worse, to be less capable. It is a deterrent to his well-being, not a help.</p><p></p><p>If he did not have it he would either have to work to be independent or to meet our conditions for help. Either with us or with a program that demands productivity, activity, and goals, and insists upon learning and responsibility.</p><p></p><p>That is my ambivalence about free money. When President Clinton reformed welfare I was opposed, adamantly so. I am not so sure anymore. I have always been in favor of social supports, whatever they are. Less so with my own child, when they may be enabling him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 662756, member: 18958"] SWOT I believe in work. I believe one does what one has to. I accept he needs this money, but at the same time I have seen him work a full time job and keep it for over a year. I know he has it within him do to this again. I am against anything that acts as a barrier to his doing so, doing what he can do. There are sheltered work programs. There are supports available to work or study through Dept of Rehab. Job Corps accepts disabled people and trains them. All of these options are available to him. That he not feel like working does not impress me. Neither do I. And that is hurting me, that I have the means to indulge my fear. All the free money is doing for my son is permitting him to indulge himself, to read more conspiracy theories, to live marginally, to run from county to county, couch to couch. Living this way is causing him to feel worse, to be less capable. It is a deterrent to his well-being, not a help. If he did not have it he would either have to work to be independent or to meet our conditions for help. Either with us or with a program that demands productivity, activity, and goals, and insists upon learning and responsibility. That is my ambivalence about free money. When President Clinton reformed welfare I was opposed, adamantly so. I am not so sure anymore. I have always been in favor of social supports, whatever they are. Less so with my own child, when they may be enabling him. [/QUOTE]
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