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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 266320" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>THanks for the clarification, Shari. Sorry I tend to write so much. I'll try to be brief.</p><p></p><p>It does sound like he could have hypermobility problems which are especially creating havoc with his hands. This has also been a huge problem for us, with the younger three, the boys especially. What we've done, and we began this from about the same age with difficult child 3 - use of computer for such tasks. It's a lot easier to type, than to hand-write. </p><p></p><p>That doesn't mean he mightn'y also have a problem finding the right words. But if he's typing his written tasks, then it removes the sore hands problem as the factor. If the task is required to be a hand-written one, he can still use the computer to draft his response and then if he absolutely has to, he can then transcribe from his own typed notes and thereby not have to deal with sore handds AND word-finding problems at the same time, assuming that is also an issue.</p><p></p><p>Another reason to let him use a keyboard - surely the aim at the moment is to get him to put words on paper? In which case, that part of compliance is a good start. Once the words havebeen chosen and he has demonstrated he has mastery of the English language, THEn people can fuss about handwriting.</p><p></p><p>Also, something we didn't know about and it's a bit late now - ring splints. If the problem is hypermobility, ring splints are one option to reduce pain for those having difficulty with this. They needn't look too obvious, but one bonus of ANYTHING looking obvious, is it makes it clear that at least this component of difficult child's problems are a physical disability. </p><p></p><p>We were given a lot of exercises for difficult child 3, to help him strengthen his muscles and ligaments in his hands. These exercises did help a little, but only a little. They also suggested he learn to play piano, because this encouraged him to control his fingertips by curling them in, and not letting his fingers bend back. Other exercises - making 'snakes' out of dough, especially pressing it with his fingertips and trying to not let his fingertips bend back. I make gnocchi and used to get difficult child 3 to help (he LOVES eating gnocchi, and it's one of my gourmet poverty food recipes). The gnocchi dough is very soft and requires a gentle touch, which also helped him learn some control with his hands, without having to actually exert much force. It was a good exercise, AND something he enjoyed doing.</p><p></p><p>If the school is concerned that you are trying to find fault with the so-so para, then doesn't this indicate that they realise she's not doing her job right? Because why would you do this, unless there was cause?</p><p></p><p>Oh well... I do think that you are much closer to finding some really good answers, which in turn should lead to some better management strategies. This should benefit EVERYONE, good para, so-so para, you, difficult child, SpEd - everyone.</p><p></p><p>Maybe you need to come right out and say, "These questions are designed purely to help us all get a better understanding of how to help him. We are a team, we all need one another. I do appreciate your support in this. I will feed back to you any conclusions and possible strategies we can come up with. If you can, please do the same. Thanks."</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 266320, member: 1991"] THanks for the clarification, Shari. Sorry I tend to write so much. I'll try to be brief. It does sound like he could have hypermobility problems which are especially creating havoc with his hands. This has also been a huge problem for us, with the younger three, the boys especially. What we've done, and we began this from about the same age with difficult child 3 - use of computer for such tasks. It's a lot easier to type, than to hand-write. That doesn't mean he mightn'y also have a problem finding the right words. But if he's typing his written tasks, then it removes the sore hands problem as the factor. If the task is required to be a hand-written one, he can still use the computer to draft his response and then if he absolutely has to, he can then transcribe from his own typed notes and thereby not have to deal with sore handds AND word-finding problems at the same time, assuming that is also an issue. Another reason to let him use a keyboard - surely the aim at the moment is to get him to put words on paper? In which case, that part of compliance is a good start. Once the words havebeen chosen and he has demonstrated he has mastery of the English language, THEn people can fuss about handwriting. Also, something we didn't know about and it's a bit late now - ring splints. If the problem is hypermobility, ring splints are one option to reduce pain for those having difficulty with this. They needn't look too obvious, but one bonus of ANYTHING looking obvious, is it makes it clear that at least this component of difficult child's problems are a physical disability. We were given a lot of exercises for difficult child 3, to help him strengthen his muscles and ligaments in his hands. These exercises did help a little, but only a little. They also suggested he learn to play piano, because this encouraged him to control his fingertips by curling them in, and not letting his fingers bend back. Other exercises - making 'snakes' out of dough, especially pressing it with his fingertips and trying to not let his fingertips bend back. I make gnocchi and used to get difficult child 3 to help (he LOVES eating gnocchi, and it's one of my gourmet poverty food recipes). The gnocchi dough is very soft and requires a gentle touch, which also helped him learn some control with his hands, without having to actually exert much force. It was a good exercise, AND something he enjoyed doing. If the school is concerned that you are trying to find fault with the so-so para, then doesn't this indicate that they realise she's not doing her job right? Because why would you do this, unless there was cause? Oh well... I do think that you are much closer to finding some really good answers, which in turn should lead to some better management strategies. This should benefit EVERYONE, good para, so-so para, you, difficult child, SpEd - everyone. Maybe you need to come right out and say, "These questions are designed purely to help us all get a better understanding of how to help him. We are a team, we all need one another. I do appreciate your support in this. I will feed back to you any conclusions and possible strategies we can come up with. If you can, please do the same. Thanks." Marg [/QUOTE]
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