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A Mother's Choice Part III : Home at last?
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<blockquote data-quote="PorcupineWhisperer" data-source="post: 163339" data-attributes="member: 62"><p>WO: My health is good, it's the mom who is having trouble. I'm sure she would appreciate your kind words however.</p><p></p><p>Fran: Glad to see you're still around. Thanks for the positive words. North Carolina, WOW! Sounds like you escaped from big city life. Cool.</p><p></p><p>slsh: In regard to the honeymoon, that actually ended around day three back home. Junior was openly defiant towards mom, rough with the family dogs, sleeping in school, not being honest in therapy etc. This is when we had our 'discussion' about his being home being a gift and just like any gift that's not appreciated, it can be taken away. I showed him a copy of the letter that I wrote saying it was a good idea for him to come home - I told him I had no problem writing another one saying we may need to rethink this decision. After that mom reported that he was actually trying to do better and when he made mistakes he made honest efforts to fix them. He did continue to have trouble with sleeping in school, but this was taken care of on it's own. Let's just say it's a not a good idea for those with bedwetting issues to get used to sleeping in class - especially classes with their 'girlfriends' in them. Need I say more.... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />. In regard to high school, the crisis plan that we put together will follow him, but I don't know how receptive or skillful the school staff will be. He really had a great Special Education teacher. As far as this summer goes, I think due to level of supervision he requires, I'm not sure what the family has planned. </p><p></p><p>TL: I think the idea of Junior having trouble finding a place to live (should something happen to mom) is less about burnt bridges and more about the difficulty of finding a place for an adolescent with a severe disability. I think mom would be struggling with the same issues if her child had autism for example. It's something that's hard for any parent to think about: what would happen to their children if something happened to them. I think for parents of kids who are harder to manage and need specialized care, it's an even harder issue to address.</p><p></p><p>In regard to mom's health effecting Junior's behavior - I think it actually has had a positive effect. Mom has always been a strong 'get it done' kind of woman and I think it is hard for him to see her less able. He is worried, but he also doesn't know how to help her feel better. What we have talked about is that there are ways he can support mom and one of those is by being more independent and not requiring multiple redirections. We also worked on how being sick might effect mom's behavior and how things might be different around the house. Right now, mom has good days and bad days - we'll see how Junior reacts if things get worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PorcupineWhisperer, post: 163339, member: 62"] WO: My health is good, it's the mom who is having trouble. I'm sure she would appreciate your kind words however. Fran: Glad to see you're still around. Thanks for the positive words. North Carolina, WOW! Sounds like you escaped from big city life. Cool. slsh: In regard to the honeymoon, that actually ended around day three back home. Junior was openly defiant towards mom, rough with the family dogs, sleeping in school, not being honest in therapy etc. This is when we had our 'discussion' about his being home being a gift and just like any gift that's not appreciated, it can be taken away. I showed him a copy of the letter that I wrote saying it was a good idea for him to come home - I told him I had no problem writing another one saying we may need to rethink this decision. After that mom reported that he was actually trying to do better and when he made mistakes he made honest efforts to fix them. He did continue to have trouble with sleeping in school, but this was taken care of on it's own. Let's just say it's a not a good idea for those with bedwetting issues to get used to sleeping in class - especially classes with their 'girlfriends' in them. Need I say more.... :). In regard to high school, the crisis plan that we put together will follow him, but I don't know how receptive or skillful the school staff will be. He really had a great Special Education teacher. As far as this summer goes, I think due to level of supervision he requires, I'm not sure what the family has planned. TL: I think the idea of Junior having trouble finding a place to live (should something happen to mom) is less about burnt bridges and more about the difficulty of finding a place for an adolescent with a severe disability. I think mom would be struggling with the same issues if her child had autism for example. It's something that's hard for any parent to think about: what would happen to their children if something happened to them. I think for parents of kids who are harder to manage and need specialized care, it's an even harder issue to address. In regard to mom's health effecting Junior's behavior - I think it actually has had a positive effect. Mom has always been a strong 'get it done' kind of woman and I think it is hard for him to see her less able. He is worried, but he also doesn't know how to help her feel better. What we have talked about is that there are ways he can support mom and one of those is by being more independent and not requiring multiple redirections. We also worked on how being sick might effect mom's behavior and how things might be different around the house. Right now, mom has good days and bad days - we'll see how Junior reacts if things get worse. [/QUOTE]
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