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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 54317" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Thank you for your words of wisdom. It is true - even the best of kids can end of pregnant out of wedlock and too early - me for example! LOL! </p><p></p><p>It is also true that she is paying the consequences of her actions from years ago. But, doesn't forgiveness come into play here? I think it has to. Especially since the age appropriateness is SOOOO vastly different between 12 and 16. Do I want her talking about sexual things with boys - NO WAY! But, I do think it is much more appropriate for her to be doing so at 16. Actually, pretty common I fear. I can not expect her to be so different than the average teen.</p><p></p><p>I am in no way saying I have forgotten that my difficult child is capable of lying to the max or that she has had sexual words and letters with boys in the past. But, I do think it is important for her to get some respect out of her parents for the choices she is voicing to us now. </p><p></p><p>I know she could have sex tomorrow. I have drilled birth control into her. Frankly, I think the best birth control she could get is babysitting her 2 little brothers. She knows just how hard it is to raise babies that turn into toddlers. But, she continues to tell me she is not having sex and therefore, does not need birth control. I sure do tell her it can happen when she least expects it and most encounters are not planned for. I just can not seem to convince her it is a good idea to start even if she does not have sex for 5 more years. I even tried the acne improvement method. No go. I have to find something different in this department. </p><p></p><p>Fran, thank you for the book on tape idea. I will be sure to get that. I think she will LOVE it. I can even get it downloaded from our library now. </p><p></p><p>I guess I really do not need to do anything. difficult child should be the one to work on what her freedoms are with her dad - (TM - thank you for pointing that one out!). </p><p></p><p>Thank you for helping me think through this one! </p><p></p><p> :thumb:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 54317, member: 391"] Thank you for your words of wisdom. It is true - even the best of kids can end of pregnant out of wedlock and too early - me for example! LOL! It is also true that she is paying the consequences of her actions from years ago. But, doesn't forgiveness come into play here? I think it has to. Especially since the age appropriateness is SOOOO vastly different between 12 and 16. Do I want her talking about sexual things with boys - NO WAY! But, I do think it is much more appropriate for her to be doing so at 16. Actually, pretty common I fear. I can not expect her to be so different than the average teen. I am in no way saying I have forgotten that my difficult child is capable of lying to the max or that she has had sexual words and letters with boys in the past. But, I do think it is important for her to get some respect out of her parents for the choices she is voicing to us now. I know she could have sex tomorrow. I have drilled birth control into her. Frankly, I think the best birth control she could get is babysitting her 2 little brothers. She knows just how hard it is to raise babies that turn into toddlers. But, she continues to tell me she is not having sex and therefore, does not need birth control. I sure do tell her it can happen when she least expects it and most encounters are not planned for. I just can not seem to convince her it is a good idea to start even if she does not have sex for 5 more years. I even tried the acne improvement method. No go. I have to find something different in this department. Fran, thank you for the book on tape idea. I will be sure to get that. I think she will LOVE it. I can even get it downloaded from our library now. I guess I really do not need to do anything. difficult child should be the one to work on what her freedoms are with her dad - (TM - thank you for pointing that one out!). Thank you for helping me think through this one! [img]:thumb:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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