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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 500528" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Oh my dear! I know that feeling of mental exhaustion that just makes you feel like you moved plus ran a marathon. </p><p></p><p>You will likely hear some repetitive things here... first, the ODD thing... I will second what soapbox said.... it simply describes the behavior that you probably described to the doctor on forms or tests... But most of us have that issue with our kids. It means nothing except she is oppositional at times and defiant at times. OK, so now, WHY... you have some major neurological issues going on here. THAT is what you can work with! THIS IS GOOD NEWS!!! Well, that is if they have given her the right diagnosis. NOW comes the many questions. NOT to be nosy but because many of us have been down the multiple wrong diagnosis road and end up with, finally, the one that fits (or several that fit). </p><p></p><p>YOU did nothing more wrong that a parent who has a kid with diabetes or cancer or any other medical condition. But moms always wonder what they did or could do better... just think if you were talking to your best friend, would you hold her accountable??</p><p></p><p></p><p>Who did this testing. You will find that often times, if it is done by a psychiatrist or mainstream psychologist, you will get diagnosis more on the lines of mental health labels as the primary issues. IF you read thru many many threads here you will see people come saying that their very young children are being labeled ADHD/ODD/Anxiety or some combination of those. Often it ends up that they have ADHD plus other diagnosis such as Learning Disability (LD), auditory processing, motor disorders, sensory integration disorder, or a combination of those. </p><p></p><p>Some have bipolar disorder and need mood stablizers... I will let other parents more familiar with that talk....</p><p></p><p>Some actually fall on the autism spectrum.</p><p></p><p>Why this is important is because these bigger issues have treatments, and have as symptoms....of..... ready??? ADHD, ODD, Anxiety, etc. </p><p></p><p>Did you see a neuropsychologist? IF you did what tests were done?? </p><p></p><p>Have you seen a speech/language path to check for processing and other communication or language issues??</p><p></p><p>Have you seen an Occupational Therapist (OT) to look at her fine motor and sensory integration status?</p><p></p><p>These three do a nice job of giving you a much better picture of what is going on. If a child is perceiving the world in a different way than what we or typical kids do then they end up acting out because they simply dont have the skills to do better. </p><p></p><p>Again, I have to say.... there is a TON OF HOPE in this!!! </p><p></p><p>(and dont think I didn't cry my eyes out and I already knew part of my son's issues.... he had a brain injury but when I found out the rest?? yeah I felt like a truck hit me...and get this... I WORK in the field... I even worked where he was diagnosis with autism!)</p><p></p><p>Can you tell us more about her early development??</p><p></p><p>Language, motor, play levels, friends, family structure, etc...???? Others will ask more questions.... we do that a lot around here so please know it is in an effort to support you. If at anytime what we say doesn't fit it is because we only see a glimmer of your life and only have our own perspectives to share so just pass on what does not fit and take what helps. </p><p></p><p>This is a journey. You are just at the beginning and those labels, they change a lot over the years. Just take a deep breath and relax as much as you can. It really will get better.</p><p></p><p>She is your same little girl. Just because she has a report, does not change who she fundamentally is. There is nothing magic about people who do this work. They may only be saying what they see now but in the end... I bet you anything you get lots of opinions and labels. I have never even listed here all the ones we ahve burned through... I just ignore it now. Once you get waht fits best you just ignore what others need to say to get insurance to cover things etc.</p><p></p><p>by the way how is school??? that is a whole 'nother post....LOL</p><p></p><p>HUGS to you! Keep checking in, ok??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 500528, member: 12886"] Oh my dear! I know that feeling of mental exhaustion that just makes you feel like you moved plus ran a marathon. You will likely hear some repetitive things here... first, the ODD thing... I will second what soapbox said.... it simply describes the behavior that you probably described to the doctor on forms or tests... But most of us have that issue with our kids. It means nothing except she is oppositional at times and defiant at times. OK, so now, WHY... you have some major neurological issues going on here. THAT is what you can work with! THIS IS GOOD NEWS!!! Well, that is if they have given her the right diagnosis. NOW comes the many questions. NOT to be nosy but because many of us have been down the multiple wrong diagnosis road and end up with, finally, the one that fits (or several that fit). YOU did nothing more wrong that a parent who has a kid with diabetes or cancer or any other medical condition. But moms always wonder what they did or could do better... just think if you were talking to your best friend, would you hold her accountable?? Who did this testing. You will find that often times, if it is done by a psychiatrist or mainstream psychologist, you will get diagnosis more on the lines of mental health labels as the primary issues. IF you read thru many many threads here you will see people come saying that their very young children are being labeled ADHD/ODD/Anxiety or some combination of those. Often it ends up that they have ADHD plus other diagnosis such as Learning Disability (LD), auditory processing, motor disorders, sensory integration disorder, or a combination of those. Some have bipolar disorder and need mood stablizers... I will let other parents more familiar with that talk.... Some actually fall on the autism spectrum. Why this is important is because these bigger issues have treatments, and have as symptoms....of..... ready??? ADHD, ODD, Anxiety, etc. Did you see a neuropsychologist? IF you did what tests were done?? Have you seen a speech/language path to check for processing and other communication or language issues?? Have you seen an Occupational Therapist (OT) to look at her fine motor and sensory integration status? These three do a nice job of giving you a much better picture of what is going on. If a child is perceiving the world in a different way than what we or typical kids do then they end up acting out because they simply dont have the skills to do better. Again, I have to say.... there is a TON OF HOPE in this!!! (and dont think I didn't cry my eyes out and I already knew part of my son's issues.... he had a brain injury but when I found out the rest?? yeah I felt like a truck hit me...and get this... I WORK in the field... I even worked where he was diagnosis with autism!) Can you tell us more about her early development?? Language, motor, play levels, friends, family structure, etc...???? Others will ask more questions.... we do that a lot around here so please know it is in an effort to support you. If at anytime what we say doesn't fit it is because we only see a glimmer of your life and only have our own perspectives to share so just pass on what does not fit and take what helps. This is a journey. You are just at the beginning and those labels, they change a lot over the years. Just take a deep breath and relax as much as you can. It really will get better. She is your same little girl. Just because she has a report, does not change who she fundamentally is. There is nothing magic about people who do this work. They may only be saying what they see now but in the end... I bet you anything you get lots of opinions and labels. I have never even listed here all the ones we ahve burned through... I just ignore it now. Once you get waht fits best you just ignore what others need to say to get insurance to cover things etc. by the way how is school??? that is a whole 'nother post....LOL HUGS to you! Keep checking in, ok?? [/QUOTE]
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