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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 745061" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>thanks for the swift replies. Yes, I often feel caught in the middle. My husband (son's stepdad) has every right to not want to deal with my son, given his behavior over the years, but also my husband is a reactive person who doesn't know how to de-escalate, so he doesn't have contact with my son. Sadly, my son still hasn't really changed. Drugs are a problem, but not the main problem, which is anger, resentment, and grandiosity. Either way, I have been stuck in the middle for years, and the stress is awful.</p><p></p><p>Texted my son, saying he could use my AAA to have car towed to a place of his choice, so he doesn't get a ticket. No response. New Year's Eve - don't know if he's drinking or using, so I'm not willing to do more than that. My husband cooled off a little. He often says he will support my choices with my son because I try very hard to keep boundaries, but as soon as he is triggered, it's a different story.</p><p></p><p>Don't know how it will play out tomorrow. What I do know is that my rehab son really hasn't cared about the impact of his behavior on me for years, and when my husband is triggered, neither does he.</p><p>I am not going anywhere tonight, but I certainly bummed out and not looking forward to tomorrow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 745061, member: 19832"] thanks for the swift replies. Yes, I often feel caught in the middle. My husband (son's stepdad) has every right to not want to deal with my son, given his behavior over the years, but also my husband is a reactive person who doesn't know how to de-escalate, so he doesn't have contact with my son. Sadly, my son still hasn't really changed. Drugs are a problem, but not the main problem, which is anger, resentment, and grandiosity. Either way, I have been stuck in the middle for years, and the stress is awful. Texted my son, saying he could use my AAA to have car towed to a place of his choice, so he doesn't get a ticket. No response. New Year's Eve - don't know if he's drinking or using, so I'm not willing to do more than that. My husband cooled off a little. He often says he will support my choices with my son because I try very hard to keep boundaries, but as soon as he is triggered, it's a different story. Don't know how it will play out tomorrow. What I do know is that my rehab son really hasn't cared about the impact of his behavior on me for years, and when my husband is triggered, neither does he. I am not going anywhere tonight, but I certainly bummed out and not looking forward to tomorrow. [/QUOTE]
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