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A View From The Other Side (Fairly Long)
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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 686180" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>And I am no better than any of your children. If anything, I am probably worse. You are their parents. And you are all good parents. Way better than my own. The fact that my aunt and uncle have treated me no differently, and with no less care than you have with your own children shows just how amazing these people are. They have no obligation to me. I was an adult by the time I got to them, anyway. There are very few people, myself included, who would have looked down on them for just letting me go. They had already gone above and beyond everything that every other adult in my life put together went. Still incredibly ashamed of myself.... But I can serve as proof that we do stupid, confusing, and hurtful things to the people who deserve the most consideration and respect. But that doesn't necessarily mean that we enjoy it, or that we can even stand ourselves for doing it. Drug addiction is a <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />. For EVERYBODY in the vicinity of an addict, not JUST the addict. It turns otherwise kind, and caring people into the very worst versions of ourselves. Makes us liars, abusers, manipulators, thieves... All the things nobody should be content with being. And things others should not just accept, or forget. Express all of those feelings. Make it impossible to just ignore. Don't just pretend nothing ever happened, and that everything is just dandy, when it isn't. Don't trust them, not right away. Make them earn it. Deserve it. And try to understand that it doesn't reflect on your parenting. It is a problem that knows no bounds. Crosses every line. Short from holding a gun to their head for the rest of their lives, there's not much you can do in regards to their decisions, apart from trying to get them to see exactly what makes those decisions wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 686180, member: 20267"] And I am no better than any of your children. If anything, I am probably worse. You are their parents. And you are all good parents. Way better than my own. The fact that my aunt and uncle have treated me no differently, and with no less care than you have with your own children shows just how amazing these people are. They have no obligation to me. I was an adult by the time I got to them, anyway. There are very few people, myself included, who would have looked down on them for just letting me go. They had already gone above and beyond everything that every other adult in my life put together went. Still incredibly ashamed of myself.... But I can serve as proof that we do stupid, confusing, and hurtful things to the people who deserve the most consideration and respect. But that doesn't necessarily mean that we enjoy it, or that we can even stand ourselves for doing it. Drug addiction is a :censored2:. For EVERYBODY in the vicinity of an addict, not JUST the addict. It turns otherwise kind, and caring people into the very worst versions of ourselves. Makes us liars, abusers, manipulators, thieves... All the things nobody should be content with being. And things others should not just accept, or forget. Express all of those feelings. Make it impossible to just ignore. Don't just pretend nothing ever happened, and that everything is just dandy, when it isn't. Don't trust them, not right away. Make them earn it. Deserve it. And try to understand that it doesn't reflect on your parenting. It is a problem that knows no bounds. Crosses every line. Short from holding a gun to their head for the rest of their lives, there's not much you can do in regards to their decisions, apart from trying to get them to see exactly what makes those decisions wrong. [/QUOTE]
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