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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 743827" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>As mine has, from me. But we were both torpedoed by the HEP B diagnosis which came out of nowhere when he was 19.</p><p> I think the abandonment is real in some kids say placed into families with cultural and ethnic differences, or those from other countries, or maybe kids who feel sensitive because they do not fit in terms of characteristics or appearance with the other family members. Some kids feel loss of their "real" histories and destinies. Others feel the loss of genetic and health histories. And there is the sense that I must not have been good enough. But I think this happens with birth children too. Children blame themselves and not their parents.</p><p></p><p>But all of this is not specific just to adopted kids, for example, the sense of being a misfit happens within genetically related families, where one child feels different or rejected or not part of the family. To the extent that some kids actually believe their parents are lying to them, and that they were actually adopted, when they were not.</p><p></p><p>But I agree with you. In my experience there is not necessarily a knee-jerk abandonment issue.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 743827, member: 18958"] As mine has, from me. But we were both torpedoed by the HEP B diagnosis which came out of nowhere when he was 19. I think the abandonment is real in some kids say placed into families with cultural and ethnic differences, or those from other countries, or maybe kids who feel sensitive because they do not fit in terms of characteristics or appearance with the other family members. Some kids feel loss of their "real" histories and destinies. Others feel the loss of genetic and health histories. And there is the sense that I must not have been good enough. But I think this happens with birth children too. Children blame themselves and not their parents. But all of this is not specific just to adopted kids, for example, the sense of being a misfit happens within genetically related families, where one child feels different or rejected or not part of the family. To the extent that some kids actually believe their parents are lying to them, and that they were actually adopted, when they were not. But I agree with you. In my experience there is not necessarily a knee-jerk abandonment issue. [/QUOTE]
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