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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 743829" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>I suppose the racial difference could be an issue for both of mine.</p><p></p><p>TL, my oldest has disowned me for some months now because I refuse to help him take out his anger on his birthmom. He had pre- natal drug exposure and is an addict which he's aware is likely inherited. I was not aware until this moment that this could be common to some adopted kids in his situation. I assumed he was just picking her as a target for whatever anger he has otherwise. It gives me a slightly different view. It says to me that even if/ when his life gets back on track this anger and her as a target will continue. Reinforces my belief that nothing good will come of contact with her. Also that if she refuses contact he will proceed to contact every relative she has as he has threatened. This will undoubtedly do damage to her life which he has said he doesn't care about. But it will give him the chance to vent his anger if she refuses contact. So I again know that I am doing the right thing in standing firm against helping him with this plan.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 743829, member: 23371"] I suppose the racial difference could be an issue for both of mine. TL, my oldest has disowned me for some months now because I refuse to help him take out his anger on his birthmom. He had pre- natal drug exposure and is an addict which he's aware is likely inherited. I was not aware until this moment that this could be common to some adopted kids in his situation. I assumed he was just picking her as a target for whatever anger he has otherwise. It gives me a slightly different view. It says to me that even if/ when his life gets back on track this anger and her as a target will continue. Reinforces my belief that nothing good will come of contact with her. Also that if she refuses contact he will proceed to contact every relative she has as he has threatened. This will undoubtedly do damage to her life which he has said he doesn't care about. But it will give him the chance to vent his anger if she refuses contact. So I again know that I am doing the right thing in standing firm against helping him with this plan. [/QUOTE]
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