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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 743846" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think there are risks too.</p><p></p><p>When I think about it, adoption is almost always a trauma in one way or another. Because the evolutionary thrust is that a mother raise her natural offspring. A disruption of this ALWAYS involves some kind of break or loss in this chain. Even if there was no trauma per se, the effect is ALWAYS traumatic in one way another. In Tl's daughters case, she resolved this easily and it represented growth on her part.</p><p>I know in my own life, there have been things swirling around for all of my life, that I have never felt ready to deal with and wonder if I ever will.</p><p></p><p>I think we represent safety to our kids. Emotional safety. In some way they prefer to work their issues out in relation to us because we are safe. We will not normally retaliate and they know we will preserve the relationship and them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 743846, member: 18958"] I think there are risks too. When I think about it, adoption is almost always a trauma in one way or another. Because the evolutionary thrust is that a mother raise her natural offspring. A disruption of this ALWAYS involves some kind of break or loss in this chain. Even if there was no trauma per se, the effect is ALWAYS traumatic in one way another. In Tl's daughters case, she resolved this easily and it represented growth on her part. I know in my own life, there have been things swirling around for all of my life, that I have never felt ready to deal with and wonder if I ever will. I think we represent safety to our kids. Emotional safety. In some way they prefer to work their issues out in relation to us because we are safe. We will not normally retaliate and they know we will preserve the relationship and them. [/QUOTE]
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