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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 647455" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>MWM, you hit the nail on the head with your first post in the thread. Thank you. </p><p></p><p>My kids got board names because if one of them went and looked at the acronyms they would be hurt. ALL of my kids are gifts from God and not a single one of them is a Perfect Child. So using the acronyms would have really hurt them. I didn't make a fuss over the names on the various threads that came up when someone objected to the acronyms because it didn't seem relevant to the overall purpose of the forum. </p><p></p><p>Changes happen. This one was not done to harm anyone. I do think people search on the term "difficult child". I did back when I was trying to figure out what was going on to make my child act the way he did. I am sure the terms used to describe our kids varies from area to area, but "difficult child" IS used to search in at least some areas. </p><p></p><p>Cheryl has offered established members the option of going back to their old posts to change the acronyms to something that does not bother them. That is MORE than generous and WAY MORE than most site owners would allow. If the change truly bothers you, esp if it bothers you enough to suggest that you will bring legal action that would mean the forum will be shut down, then it bothers you enough to change your past posts, even if there are thousands of them. If it doesn't bother you enough to have you take up Cheryl's offer and to invest your time and energy into changing your old posts, then maybe it doesn't really make that big of an impact in your life to warrant all of this. I for one would prefer to either change all my old posts rather than destroying an entire forum that supports a substantial community in a way that cannot be found in any other forum anywhere. Or I would simply have a chat with my kids to explain why I used those terms rather than other words if and when it became an issue with my kids.</p><p></p><p>I have seen forums shut down over people threatening legal action when a change they didn't like was made. It leaves entire communities of people without support and even if another member opens up a similar forum, things are never truly rebuilt. This community serves a crucial service for so many of us. I would most likely NOT have a child who is no longer violent and who is rebuilding his relationships in positive ways. I would NEVER have been able to find the help and services for him that I did, much less been able to hold the schools to his IEP or to deal with the various doctors and therapists etc... to find the things he needed and avoid the pitfalls and problems that the bad/incompetent ones presented. I stick around because y'all are my family and my friends, and so that in some small way I can give back. Without this forum I would have one child either dead or maimed, one child either dead or in prison, and would likely be dead or in prison myself. I am not being dramatic. This is simply where we were headed. So I don't want to see this place closed and I want to try to give back by being here to offer help when and where I can. </p><p></p><p>Cheryl, I think the change is great. I appreciate your willingness to allow us to go and change our old posts if we want to regarding the acronyms. Most of all, I appreciate simply having the forum.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 647455, member: 1233"] MWM, you hit the nail on the head with your first post in the thread. Thank you. My kids got board names because if one of them went and looked at the acronyms they would be hurt. ALL of my kids are gifts from God and not a single one of them is a Perfect Child. So using the acronyms would have really hurt them. I didn't make a fuss over the names on the various threads that came up when someone objected to the acronyms because it didn't seem relevant to the overall purpose of the forum. Changes happen. This one was not done to harm anyone. I do think people search on the term "difficult child". I did back when I was trying to figure out what was going on to make my child act the way he did. I am sure the terms used to describe our kids varies from area to area, but "difficult child" IS used to search in at least some areas. Cheryl has offered established members the option of going back to their old posts to change the acronyms to something that does not bother them. That is MORE than generous and WAY MORE than most site owners would allow. If the change truly bothers you, esp if it bothers you enough to suggest that you will bring legal action that would mean the forum will be shut down, then it bothers you enough to change your past posts, even if there are thousands of them. If it doesn't bother you enough to have you take up Cheryl's offer and to invest your time and energy into changing your old posts, then maybe it doesn't really make that big of an impact in your life to warrant all of this. I for one would prefer to either change all my old posts rather than destroying an entire forum that supports a substantial community in a way that cannot be found in any other forum anywhere. Or I would simply have a chat with my kids to explain why I used those terms rather than other words if and when it became an issue with my kids. I have seen forums shut down over people threatening legal action when a change they didn't like was made. It leaves entire communities of people without support and even if another member opens up a similar forum, things are never truly rebuilt. This community serves a crucial service for so many of us. I would most likely NOT have a child who is no longer violent and who is rebuilding his relationships in positive ways. I would NEVER have been able to find the help and services for him that I did, much less been able to hold the schools to his IEP or to deal with the various doctors and therapists etc... to find the things he needed and avoid the pitfalls and problems that the bad/incompetent ones presented. I stick around because y'all are my family and my friends, and so that in some small way I can give back. Without this forum I would have one child either dead or maimed, one child either dead or in prison, and would likely be dead or in prison myself. I am not being dramatic. This is simply where we were headed. So I don't want to see this place closed and I want to try to give back by being here to offer help when and where I can. Cheryl, I think the change is great. I appreciate your willingness to allow us to go and change our old posts if we want to regarding the acronyms. Most of all, I appreciate simply having the forum. [/QUOTE]
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