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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 56120" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>I was giving this thread some more thought and remembered an article in one of the newsmagazines some time ago that postured the same idea.</p><p></p><p>The premise of the article was that the last two years of high school were a waste of time for most teenagers and that they were just spinning their wheels. It called for a total reform of high school with kids going off to college or the workplace at the end of the sophomore year.</p><p></p><p>Well, my difficult child was a living experiment of that. Intellectually, she was ready to move on and so she did what we call joint enrollment. She was technically a senior in high school but went full time to the local community college. She managed to get through it with A's, B's and C's and graduated high school with a year of college under her belt.</p><p></p><p>Sounds great, right? Well, we found out later that she also was cutting most of her classes which was something that she couldn't get away with in high school. She also had moved on to a whole new set of older druggies that she met in her college classes.</p><p></p><p>So I would say in retrospect that the "freedom" that this allowed was harmful rather than a growth experience.</p><p></p><p>It's easy to make blanket statements and sweeping generalizations. Too often it doesn't fit reality.</p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion, the problem isn't giving chores, it's that too many parents have stopped having any expectations of their teens at all. I see it in the classroom on a daily basis. While the majority of my students are great kids, they are also spoiled rotten. They laugh when I ask how many do their own laundry or cook or clean. I have also noticed that the few that do are often the most serious, responsible kids.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 56120, member: 1967"] I was giving this thread some more thought and remembered an article in one of the newsmagazines some time ago that postured the same idea. The premise of the article was that the last two years of high school were a waste of time for most teenagers and that they were just spinning their wheels. It called for a total reform of high school with kids going off to college or the workplace at the end of the sophomore year. Well, my difficult child was a living experiment of that. Intellectually, she was ready to move on and so she did what we call joint enrollment. She was technically a senior in high school but went full time to the local community college. She managed to get through it with A's, B's and C's and graduated high school with a year of college under her belt. Sounds great, right? Well, we found out later that she also was cutting most of her classes which was something that she couldn't get away with in high school. She also had moved on to a whole new set of older druggies that she met in her college classes. So I would say in retrospect that the "freedom" that this allowed was harmful rather than a growth experience. It's easy to make blanket statements and sweeping generalizations. Too often it doesn't fit reality. in my humble opinion, the problem isn't giving chores, it's that too many parents have stopped having any expectations of their teens at all. I see it in the classroom on a daily basis. While the majority of my students are great kids, they are also spoiled rotten. They laugh when I ask how many do their own laundry or cook or clean. I have also noticed that the few that do are often the most serious, responsible kids. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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