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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 56208" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p> I found the article pretty profound in keeping with my theories of parenting and education. In fact according to Jewish law when i became bar Mitvah at the age of 13 , I became an adult in the legal sense with full rights etc . I agree with the article that we are delaying transitioning in adulthood by extended education and not at least on a part time basis encouraging children to have jobs . We have created a peer culture which perpetuates childhood. I have always recommended on parenting sites , mentors, young adult involvement with kids to counter act peer culture. Having some sort of part time real job , that our teenagers should be involved with adults not in a top down controlling dynamic but respecting competence and responsibility. Chores don't do the trick because both parents and kids perceive it as a topdown control issue , if you do you get , rather than taking responsibility as a contribuor to your family because you believe this is the type of person you want to become and the type of family you want. I disagree with the notion that kids brains are equal or better than adult brains , this maybe true in academic testing , but in real life kid's limbic brains get in the way of their frontal lobes. However the perpetuation of childhood by creating teen -peer culture reinforces limbic brain thinking, enjoying the moment instead of delaying gratification and thinking responsibly how one's actions effect others and one's future. In relationships , the age of sexual behavior amongst teenagers is getting lower and lower , yet a commitment to marriage or longterm relationships , having children is being delayed. We cannot expect teenagers to act responsibily when they are not allowed to make decisions that effect their lives , don't give them a voice. I want adult involvement and participation , not a top down dynamic , but one of cooperation and learning.</p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 56208, member: 10"] Hi, I found the article pretty profound in keeping with my theories of parenting and education. In fact according to Jewish law when i became bar Mitvah at the age of 13 , I became an adult in the legal sense with full rights etc . I agree with the article that we are delaying transitioning in adulthood by extended education and not at least on a part time basis encouraging children to have jobs . We have created a peer culture which perpetuates childhood. I have always recommended on parenting sites , mentors, young adult involvement with kids to counter act peer culture. Having some sort of part time real job , that our teenagers should be involved with adults not in a top down controlling dynamic but respecting competence and responsibility. Chores don't do the trick because both parents and kids perceive it as a topdown control issue , if you do you get , rather than taking responsibility as a contribuor to your family because you believe this is the type of person you want to become and the type of family you want. I disagree with the notion that kids brains are equal or better than adult brains , this maybe true in academic testing , but in real life kid's limbic brains get in the way of their frontal lobes. However the perpetuation of childhood by creating teen -peer culture reinforces limbic brain thinking, enjoying the moment instead of delaying gratification and thinking responsibly how one's actions effect others and one's future. In relationships , the age of sexual behavior amongst teenagers is getting lower and lower , yet a commitment to marriage or longterm relationships , having children is being delayed. We cannot expect teenagers to act responsibily when they are not allowed to make decisions that effect their lives , don't give them a voice. I want adult involvement and participation , not a top down dynamic , but one of cooperation and learning. Allan [/QUOTE]
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