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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 707797" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If indeed he is alcohol affected, that is irreversible brain damage...and this is a very real possibility. A mother only has to drink a little during pregnancy to destroy her babies brain. It is the #1 reason for a low IQ in our country (although not all have low IQs).</p><p></p><p>If indeed he has this, and you must find out, the psychological issues become secondary to keeping your other family safe from him and him safe from himself. It then becomes brain damage with psychological issues.</p><p><span style="font-size: 16px"></span></p><p> <span style="font-size: 16px">These kids can not reason due to the alcohol in utero and brain harm from it. Please first find put if he has this. Sometimes they are small for their ages with odd facial features (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)) and sometimes they look completely normal but have the same behaviors and brain damage as one with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) only it is called Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). There is little differrence other than how they look.</span></p><p></p><p>For his sake you need to know if he has brain impairment to see if he needs snd may always need strict supervision to keep him out of trouble. They truly do not understand right from wrong and forget even why they are in jail once they eventually end there. They reoffend, not understsnding what they did.</p><p></p><p>Take him to a neurologist or neuro psychologist. This is a brain issue. Susie is right too, as always. She is so smart <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Check reputation. Find out who in your community is the best in diagnosing fetal alcohol spectrum. If ypu find out yje best place to go is another type of professional in your community, choose the best person. All communities are different.</p><p></p><p>Then move on to an attachment disorder specialist if he doesnt have fetal alcohol spectrum, usually a psychologist with an interest in attachment disorder...many dont know about it. Again, ask around.</p><p></p><p>Both disorders are serious. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) is incurable but there are ways to keep them safe and you safe. If he is googling how to kill you, you must protect yourself. Fast. Soon.</p><p></p><p> Attachment disorder is a hard nut to crack but can sometimes be helped. Or not. There is no consensus yet on how to treat it. </p><p></p><p>On top of that, he also did have trauma. </p><p></p><p>Ive seen kids like this in foster care and adoption. It is not for the faint of heart but you sound strong, informed and smart.</p><p></p><p>You are a champion. He is lucky. Your husband is lucky. I know from your post that you understand what his real issues may be. Kudos to you!! You seem very loving and...again smart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 707797, member: 1550"] If indeed he is alcohol affected, that is irreversible brain damage...and this is a very real possibility. A mother only has to drink a little during pregnancy to destroy her babies brain. It is the #1 reason for a low IQ in our country (although not all have low IQs). If indeed he has this, and you must find out, the psychological issues become secondary to keeping your other family safe from him and him safe from himself. It then becomes brain damage with psychological issues. [SIZE=16px] These kids can not reason due to the alcohol in utero and brain harm from it. Please first find put if he has this. Sometimes they are small for their ages with odd facial features (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)) and sometimes they look completely normal but have the same behaviors and brain damage as one with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) only it is called Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). There is little differrence other than how they look.[/SIZE] For his sake you need to know if he has brain impairment to see if he needs snd may always need strict supervision to keep him out of trouble. They truly do not understand right from wrong and forget even why they are in jail once they eventually end there. They reoffend, not understsnding what they did. Take him to a neurologist or neuro psychologist. This is a brain issue. Susie is right too, as always. She is so smart :) Check reputation. Find out who in your community is the best in diagnosing fetal alcohol spectrum. If ypu find out yje best place to go is another type of professional in your community, choose the best person. All communities are different. Then move on to an attachment disorder specialist if he doesnt have fetal alcohol spectrum, usually a psychologist with an interest in attachment disorder...many dont know about it. Again, ask around. Both disorders are serious. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) is incurable but there are ways to keep them safe and you safe. If he is googling how to kill you, you must protect yourself. Fast. Soon. Attachment disorder is a hard nut to crack but can sometimes be helped. Or not. There is no consensus yet on how to treat it. On top of that, he also did have trauma. Ive seen kids like this in foster care and adoption. It is not for the faint of heart but you sound strong, informed and smart. You are a champion. He is lucky. Your husband is lucky. I know from your post that you understand what his real issues may be. Kudos to you!! You seem very loving and...again smart. [/QUOTE]
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