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About to send difficult child to residential!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 151236" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>Good advice I was given is avoid saying ' No' and (treat your kid like your neighbour's 25 yo son). Try to get into a conversation , using open ended questions , how do you feel , what do you think , how would I feel , what is my concern , I hear you , let's try to work this out </p><p>We need to think ahead , meaning how will the kid respond or react , not whether we are right or wrong. It often means lowering the rope and giving up ' principles'. Problems are rarely solved in the moment , often can take weeks , so we need patience , get the big picture where we are going , and see the meltdowns as a big wave coming at us , we need to put our heads down , ride it out , find ways to calm the child and get him back on track, the apology and restitution can wait until he is emotionally ready.</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 151236, member: 10"] Hi, Good advice I was given is avoid saying ' No' and (treat your kid like your neighbour's 25 yo son). Try to get into a conversation , using open ended questions , how do you feel , what do you think , how would I feel , what is my concern , I hear you , let's try to work this out We need to think ahead , meaning how will the kid respond or react , not whether we are right or wrong. It often means lowering the rope and giving up ' principles'. Problems are rarely solved in the moment , often can take weeks , so we need patience , get the big picture where we are going , and see the meltdowns as a big wave coming at us , we need to put our heads down , ride it out , find ways to calm the child and get him back on track, the apology and restitution can wait until he is emotionally ready. Allan [/QUOTE]
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