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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 544256" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thank you everyone for your kind support. </p><p></p><p>Calamity, I have read all of Annie Lamott's books, and just loved Bird by Bird which is one of my favorites. She lives in Marin County about 20 minutes from me and I've seen her in person, she is wonderful.</p><p>Witzend, yes it <strong>IS </strong>wonderful to be free. It's new but I'm a quick study!</p><p>CrazyinVa, yes it is more painful with the grandkids. Right now I don't have to face that since my granddaughter lives with me. Thank God.</p><p></p><p>The last couple of days have been interesting. I haven't spoken to my difficult child so whatever she is up to or not, I don't know about, which works best for me. In the absence of having her be the focus, I have been having more fun and more peace. </p><p></p><p>I went into a small local women's shop on Saturday and bought myself a few items. As I was paying for them the thought occurred to me that for most of my adult life I have thought to hold back on spending money on myself since difficult child, granddaughter, mother, sister, SOMEONE, will need MY money because THEIR needs are paramount to mine. Well, I didn't have that thought and I happily purchased stuff for myself. So, my thinking is changing too. My internal dialogue isn't all about difficult child, it is moving into being about ME.</p><p></p><p>I am home from work early, by 1:30 or so, and now instead of my afternoons being about handling difficult child stuff or granddaughter stuff, I am FREE. difficult child is in her life doing whatever and granddaughter is driving now which means that half my life isn't being a chauffeur. All of a sudden, I have more money, more time, more brain power since my mind isn't preoccupied with coming up with endless ideas to save my difficult child from herself and more energy to go do things I want to do. Yikes. </p><p></p><p>I think about difficult child, but not to the extent I have. I am not ruminating about her life, I am living in mine. What a difference. I still have my weekly codependency therapy support group which I can continue in for as long as I need to. I still have therapy. There may be snags and 'relapses' but I think I'm on a new track. I'm feeling very, very grateful right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 544256, member: 13542"] Thank you everyone for your kind support. Calamity, I have read all of Annie Lamott's books, and just loved Bird by Bird which is one of my favorites. She lives in Marin County about 20 minutes from me and I've seen her in person, she is wonderful. Witzend, yes it [B]IS [/B]wonderful to be free. It's new but I'm a quick study! CrazyinVa, yes it is more painful with the grandkids. Right now I don't have to face that since my granddaughter lives with me. Thank God. The last couple of days have been interesting. I haven't spoken to my difficult child so whatever she is up to or not, I don't know about, which works best for me. In the absence of having her be the focus, I have been having more fun and more peace. I went into a small local women's shop on Saturday and bought myself a few items. As I was paying for them the thought occurred to me that for most of my adult life I have thought to hold back on spending money on myself since difficult child, granddaughter, mother, sister, SOMEONE, will need MY money because THEIR needs are paramount to mine. Well, I didn't have that thought and I happily purchased stuff for myself. So, my thinking is changing too. My internal dialogue isn't all about difficult child, it is moving into being about ME. I am home from work early, by 1:30 or so, and now instead of my afternoons being about handling difficult child stuff or granddaughter stuff, I am FREE. difficult child is in her life doing whatever and granddaughter is driving now which means that half my life isn't being a chauffeur. All of a sudden, I have more money, more time, more brain power since my mind isn't preoccupied with coming up with endless ideas to save my difficult child from herself and more energy to go do things I want to do. Yikes. I think about difficult child, but not to the extent I have. I am not ruminating about her life, I am living in mine. What a difference. I still have my weekly codependency therapy support group which I can continue in for as long as I need to. I still have therapy. There may be snags and 'relapses' but I think I'm on a new track. I'm feeling very, very grateful right now. [/QUOTE]
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