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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 441705" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Recently I took easy child shopping at the mall. We were trying to find anything to fit her that was somewhat dressy, yet age appropriate, for S/O's graduation ceremony. She was just a few weeks from turning 12 and she is about 5'1 and overweight at about 130lbs for her age and height. But she is not obese, I'd say chunky or baby flubbish still. She has my tendency to junk in the trunk booty and full hips and from her dads side she has thick legs. She is also developing in her chest. yet still, do you think we could find a outfit for her? nope. The teens section had not one thing in her size even if it was inappropriate for the occassion. Literally not one thing in any teen department fit her, not even close. So we went to the women's stores and looked for basic black capri pants for her and a simple blouse. There would have been some things for her if she was my age or older, but not a thing appropriate for a young teen or even a older teen. It was the first time I saw her devestated by being larger than her peers. And she felt as if she weighed 200lbs instead of being a bit chubby. We ended up finding a womens sized sundress that she selected after much upset and distress in all of the shops. I told her it was perfect but in all honesty it was not flattering and if there had been other options I would have gently suggested she could try something else that might be more her style. As it was, this was our largest mall and we'd run the gauntlet of shops. I can absolutely see ads, campaigns, media etc contributing to poor body image and self esteem. I watched something change in her that day and I know she's thought of it often since. I find it such a shame.</p><p></p><p>This may be too much information, but it came to mind when I read this post. I was reading a article on a study done about online searches for sexual related sites among adults in the US. The study was meant to see what the true desires of men and women were now that anonymity exists to search online for things that before people were going into seedy shops to check out. A whopping percentage of young men and boys do searches for full figured or "natural" looking womens photos, I believe it was 60+% or something crazy high like that, showing that men of all ages are attracted to women with fuller shapes and meat on their bones. It also showed a surprisingly low number of men and young men searching for thin young women. </p><p></p><p>Just goes to show that men DO find women who aren't stick thin attractive as well, often more so due to the appeal for the female "shape" and "curves". I hate that so many young women believe that attractiveness is measured in clothes size and by weight when in reality women with very curvy figures are often more desirable than the slim women that we see young people being taught are the attractive ones as opposed to bigger girls who they are taught are not as appealing. </p><p></p><p>I love the Campaign for Real Beauty!!</p><p></p><p>I think as parents of daughters, we just have to have open talks with our girls as they are growing up about how they see themselves and especially if they carry extra weight or don't in some other way fit the image these girls think is the definitive epitomy of beauty.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 441705, member: 4264"] Recently I took easy child shopping at the mall. We were trying to find anything to fit her that was somewhat dressy, yet age appropriate, for S/O's graduation ceremony. She was just a few weeks from turning 12 and she is about 5'1 and overweight at about 130lbs for her age and height. But she is not obese, I'd say chunky or baby flubbish still. She has my tendency to junk in the trunk booty and full hips and from her dads side she has thick legs. She is also developing in her chest. yet still, do you think we could find a outfit for her? nope. The teens section had not one thing in her size even if it was inappropriate for the occassion. Literally not one thing in any teen department fit her, not even close. So we went to the women's stores and looked for basic black capri pants for her and a simple blouse. There would have been some things for her if she was my age or older, but not a thing appropriate for a young teen or even a older teen. It was the first time I saw her devestated by being larger than her peers. And she felt as if she weighed 200lbs instead of being a bit chubby. We ended up finding a womens sized sundress that she selected after much upset and distress in all of the shops. I told her it was perfect but in all honesty it was not flattering and if there had been other options I would have gently suggested she could try something else that might be more her style. As it was, this was our largest mall and we'd run the gauntlet of shops. I can absolutely see ads, campaigns, media etc contributing to poor body image and self esteem. I watched something change in her that day and I know she's thought of it often since. I find it such a shame. This may be too much information, but it came to mind when I read this post. I was reading a article on a study done about online searches for sexual related sites among adults in the US. The study was meant to see what the true desires of men and women were now that anonymity exists to search online for things that before people were going into seedy shops to check out. A whopping percentage of young men and boys do searches for full figured or "natural" looking womens photos, I believe it was 60+% or something crazy high like that, showing that men of all ages are attracted to women with fuller shapes and meat on their bones. It also showed a surprisingly low number of men and young men searching for thin young women. Just goes to show that men DO find women who aren't stick thin attractive as well, often more so due to the appeal for the female "shape" and "curves". I hate that so many young women believe that attractiveness is measured in clothes size and by weight when in reality women with very curvy figures are often more desirable than the slim women that we see young people being taught are the attractive ones as opposed to bigger girls who they are taught are not as appealing. I love the Campaign for Real Beauty!! I think as parents of daughters, we just have to have open talks with our girls as they are growing up about how they see themselves and especially if they carry extra weight or don't in some other way fit the image these girls think is the definitive epitomy of beauty. [/QUOTE]
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