Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Adjusting to short sleeves
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 136732" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>MM, </p><p> </p><p>I personally have issues with clothes - If someone in my family had said - MY GOSH you're only 12, what's the big deal - I would have felt really bad. I'm 43 and now I can explain it to some degree - but I have mornings where 10 shirts won't feel right - and my family now just sighs and walks away. If you don't have SI you will probably not understand or be able to empathize with someone who does. But you can be kind and acknowledge that persons pain and name the feeling, then work together to figure out what he thinks would help. </p><p> </p><p>How about you talk to him and identify that he's having a problem with sleve length like "Well I see short sleeves make you angry I bet it's hard to wear a shirt that is so uncomfortable." then say nothing, but wait to see what he says back. If he says nothing - you can say "I wish I could wave a wand and ride a unicorn to the shirt store and find you the perfect shirt." </p><p> </p><p>To help with feelings</p><p>1.) Listen with full attention</p><p>2.) Acknowledge their feelings with a word like "OH" or "Mmm" ....I see. </p><p>3.) Give their feelings a name</p><p>4.) Give them their wishes in a fantasy</p><p> </p><p>I have no doubts that my "quirks" make me a little weirdo, practice not dismissing a child's feelings - especially one who is quirky like their Aunti Star. lol </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 136732, member: 4964"] MM, I personally have issues with clothes - If someone in my family had said - MY GOSH you're only 12, what's the big deal - I would have felt really bad. I'm 43 and now I can explain it to some degree - but I have mornings where 10 shirts won't feel right - and my family now just sighs and walks away. If you don't have SI you will probably not understand or be able to empathize with someone who does. But you can be kind and acknowledge that persons pain and name the feeling, then work together to figure out what he thinks would help. How about you talk to him and identify that he's having a problem with sleve length like "Well I see short sleeves make you angry I bet it's hard to wear a shirt that is so uncomfortable." then say nothing, but wait to see what he says back. If he says nothing - you can say "I wish I could wave a wand and ride a unicorn to the shirt store and find you the perfect shirt." To help with feelings 1.) Listen with full attention 2.) Acknowledge their feelings with a word like "OH" or "Mmm" ....I see. 3.) Give their feelings a name 4.) Give them their wishes in a fantasy I have no doubts that my "quirks" make me a little weirdo, practice not dismissing a child's feelings - especially one who is quirky like their Aunti Star. lol Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Adjusting to short sleeves
Top