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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 397307" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Welcome ~ glad you came out of hiding. I read your other thread with interest. Some states laws are incredibly frustrating ~ does nothing to keep a family intact.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Saying that, my adopted twins have always had issues with sense of self. It came to a head, especially for my ktbug, after my husband died in 2009. For both kt & wm, the main issue dealt with in therapy has been sense of self; sense of family. Recognizing birth family (good, bad & indifferent). Celebrating the differences of bio family & adoptive family. Integrating those differences in our family. husband & I found ourselves using many of the tweedles phrases (that we weren't familiar with), celebrating holidays in different manners yet holding onto our own rituals.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">A blended family if you will. Our adoptive children will fight it, embrace it, hate it & love every moment of it. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">In the end, wm will choose what he will choose. kt will choose what she will choose. They will each develop a sense of self ~ figure out their place in the world, as will your difficult child. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">The hard part is stepping back & allowing this journey after all the blood, sweat, tears & love you've invested thus far. There is little that can be done at this moment other than you've already done. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">You've done your job - now difficult child must do his. You will be there if he reaches out (let him know that). </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 397307, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Welcome ~ glad you came out of hiding. I read your other thread with interest. Some states laws are incredibly frustrating ~ does nothing to keep a family intact. Saying that, my adopted twins have always had issues with sense of self. It came to a head, especially for my ktbug, after my husband died in 2009. For both kt & wm, the main issue dealt with in therapy has been sense of self; sense of family. Recognizing birth family (good, bad & indifferent). Celebrating the differences of bio family & adoptive family. Integrating those differences in our family. husband & I found ourselves using many of the tweedles phrases (that we weren't familiar with), celebrating holidays in different manners yet holding onto our own rituals. A blended family if you will. Our adoptive children will fight it, embrace it, hate it & love every moment of it. In the end, wm will choose what he will choose. kt will choose what she will choose. They will each develop a sense of self ~ figure out their place in the world, as will your difficult child. The hard part is stepping back & allowing this journey after all the blood, sweat, tears & love you've invested thus far. There is little that can be done at this moment other than you've already done. You've done your job - now difficult child must do his. You will be there if he reaches out (let him know that). [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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