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Adoption attorney appointment today - difficult child in all her glory
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 252978" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm really sorry it worked out that way. Actually, some couples are so desperate to adopt that they would put up with, what is called, a legal risk adoption. I wouldn't have done it, but there ARE couples who will, as there are couples who will not only pay all her fees, but feed and house her for months. We had friends who did this to a prospective birth mother only to have her decide to keep the baby at the last minute. There is no guarantee your daughter will go through with it even if she takes all the perks. Many change their minds after the baby is born and that is their right, even if prospective adoptive parents have paid out thousands of dollars to care for the birthmother. It's NOT a simple process, which is why there are so many wealthier couples who adopt overseas. It's much simpler. And it's not much more expensive. We got very lucky with our birthmother. She didn't want anything from us at all except for us to be good parents to the baby, and she was mature enough to sign her rights away...and Dad was in jail and she somehow talked him into signing too. If she hadn't, we would have said "we can't risk our hearts that way." However, WE are not EVERYONE. If your daughter holds out and says it's probably not the 4th sperm donor, trust me, couples will offer to adopt the baby anyway, even knowing the risks. It boggles my mind what people will do when they are desperate to have a baby. I've seen a lot! So you never know. She could find parents for the baby regardless of the status of the 4th father. In fact, I'll bet she will. </p><p>Keep venting. We're listening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 252978, member: 1550"] I'm really sorry it worked out that way. Actually, some couples are so desperate to adopt that they would put up with, what is called, a legal risk adoption. I wouldn't have done it, but there ARE couples who will, as there are couples who will not only pay all her fees, but feed and house her for months. We had friends who did this to a prospective birth mother only to have her decide to keep the baby at the last minute. There is no guarantee your daughter will go through with it even if she takes all the perks. Many change their minds after the baby is born and that is their right, even if prospective adoptive parents have paid out thousands of dollars to care for the birthmother. It's NOT a simple process, which is why there are so many wealthier couples who adopt overseas. It's much simpler. And it's not much more expensive. We got very lucky with our birthmother. She didn't want anything from us at all except for us to be good parents to the baby, and she was mature enough to sign her rights away...and Dad was in jail and she somehow talked him into signing too. If she hadn't, we would have said "we can't risk our hearts that way." However, WE are not EVERYONE. If your daughter holds out and says it's probably not the 4th sperm donor, trust me, couples will offer to adopt the baby anyway, even knowing the risks. It boggles my mind what people will do when they are desperate to have a baby. I've seen a lot! So you never know. She could find parents for the baby regardless of the status of the 4th father. In fact, I'll bet she will. Keep venting. We're listening. [/QUOTE]
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