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Adoption attorney appointment today - difficult child in all her glory
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<blockquote data-quote="C.J." data-source="post: 253028" data-attributes="member: 1987"><p>MWM,</p><p></p><p>No way she keeps this baby - unless she wants to live in a homeless shelter with the baby. I am adamant that she is not bringing this baby into my home and the accompanying SD drama and chaos that will undoubtedly ensue. I am not arguing with a difficult child about how to properly care for a baby. I'm not listening ONCE to her tell me, "I'M his mother, not you...." </p><p></p><p>I told the attorney today that we do not need any money from any prospective couples for pre-birth expenses. If there are those who have already paid a retainer to their attorney, put money in escrow for a potential birth mother's expenses for attorney, social worker, medical costs....that's fine, but as long as N* was living in my home, she has no need for upfront costs from someone else. I also explained that I was willing to have the adoptive couple who is chosen to know that if necessary, I have EVERY receipt for EVERY expense I have provided for N* during her pregnancy - and would be willing to testify on their behalf at any contested adoption hearing. There is one PSD who has told N* he does not want the baby placed for adoption if he is SD - (he's not #4). He unfortunately, is the one I think is actually the SD. While N* does not have (she says) any recall of who she had sex with the weekend in question (if 9 week sonogram is accurate), I believe she spent the night with him at that time. Ugh.</p><p></p><p>I have the complete names, addresses & phone numbers for each of the PSD's - it's not like they haven't been calling my house for the last two years. But since I'm not the client, even if I provide this information to the SW or the attorney, they cannot use it without N*'s permission.</p><p></p><p>N* wants an open adoption - ideally (for her) she would want the couple to live VERY close to my house, so she could see this child every day for several hours, have overnight and weekend visitation, take him out for ice cream, get his picture taken with her, and every other outrageous immature idea that pops into her head.</p><p></p><p>She has an appointment with the SW on Thursday - maybe she can convince her to give her permission to contact #4 - just so we can then begin to review the profiles she has and begin to make contact with a few people.</p><p></p><p>I knew this was not going to be easy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="C.J., post: 253028, member: 1987"] MWM, No way she keeps this baby - unless she wants to live in a homeless shelter with the baby. I am adamant that she is not bringing this baby into my home and the accompanying SD drama and chaos that will undoubtedly ensue. I am not arguing with a difficult child about how to properly care for a baby. I'm not listening ONCE to her tell me, "I'M his mother, not you...." I told the attorney today that we do not need any money from any prospective couples for pre-birth expenses. If there are those who have already paid a retainer to their attorney, put money in escrow for a potential birth mother's expenses for attorney, social worker, medical costs....that's fine, but as long as N* was living in my home, she has no need for upfront costs from someone else. I also explained that I was willing to have the adoptive couple who is chosen to know that if necessary, I have EVERY receipt for EVERY expense I have provided for N* during her pregnancy - and would be willing to testify on their behalf at any contested adoption hearing. There is one PSD who has told N* he does not want the baby placed for adoption if he is SD - (he's not #4). He unfortunately, is the one I think is actually the SD. While N* does not have (she says) any recall of who she had sex with the weekend in question (if 9 week sonogram is accurate), I believe she spent the night with him at that time. Ugh. I have the complete names, addresses & phone numbers for each of the PSD's - it's not like they haven't been calling my house for the last two years. But since I'm not the client, even if I provide this information to the SW or the attorney, they cannot use it without N*'s permission. N* wants an open adoption - ideally (for her) she would want the couple to live VERY close to my house, so she could see this child every day for several hours, have overnight and weekend visitation, take him out for ice cream, get his picture taken with her, and every other outrageous immature idea that pops into her head. She has an appointment with the SW on Thursday - maybe she can convince her to give her permission to contact #4 - just so we can then begin to review the profiles she has and begin to make contact with a few people. I knew this was not going to be easy. [/QUOTE]
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