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Adoption has changed so much. I'm scared.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 244398" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>THanks to all. Since I started this thread and heard from N's birthmother I feel a lot better. She really is a great person. She'd NEVER try to talk N. into dumping us and N. is a great person--she wouldn't do it. My fear is the birthfather's family who have a really bad attitude and a lot of dysfunction, but I'm not convinced that N. will choose to hang with them much. She already told me that the first thing she'd say to her b-father if she ever saw him in jail (which won't happen; we won't make the nine hour drive to have her visit him in a moderate to high security prison) is "Why are you so STUPID?" But I know in her heart she has a little bit of a soft spot for him, which would stop as she got to know him and he repeatedly made empty promises to her. He has a tatoo with her name on it on his back. Isn't that cute? (sarcasm). We found out by checking his inmate picture. It had a description of his tatoos. But daughter is young and thinks it means he loves her. Blech! </p><p>To Nomad, I noticed a BIG backlash of anger and hate toward adoptive parents since I've been on the internet. My attitude is, if you want to raise your child then do it, even if it's hard. Very hard. If you don't, don't cry about it later on. I'm so tired of the whining I could scream.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 244398, member: 1550"] THanks to all. Since I started this thread and heard from N's birthmother I feel a lot better. She really is a great person. She'd NEVER try to talk N. into dumping us and N. is a great person--she wouldn't do it. My fear is the birthfather's family who have a really bad attitude and a lot of dysfunction, but I'm not convinced that N. will choose to hang with them much. She already told me that the first thing she'd say to her b-father if she ever saw him in jail (which won't happen; we won't make the nine hour drive to have her visit him in a moderate to high security prison) is "Why are you so STUPID?" But I know in her heart she has a little bit of a soft spot for him, which would stop as she got to know him and he repeatedly made empty promises to her. He has a tatoo with her name on it on his back. Isn't that cute? (sarcasm). We found out by checking his inmate picture. It had a description of his tatoos. But daughter is young and thinks it means he loves her. Blech! To Nomad, I noticed a BIG backlash of anger and hate toward adoptive parents since I've been on the internet. My attitude is, if you want to raise your child then do it, even if it's hard. Very hard. If you don't, don't cry about it later on. I'm so tired of the whining I could scream. [/QUOTE]
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