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Adoptive parents: Would you do it again?
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 748714" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Hi Well my marriage has survived for 34 years.... and still going strong. I have two kids, both adopted. My relationship with my daughter is very good and we are close. She is an amazing young woman and doing very well. I dont think her being adopted has hurt our relationshpi at all.I think she wants to meet her birthmother some day and that is fine with me and I will totally support her in doing so.</p><p></p><p>My relationship with my son is much more difficult because of various things he has done and his drug use.I have thought at times our lives would have been much easier if we didnt adopt him. But I also think all that we have been through has made me grow as a person.... and I dont want him out of my life so I cant say that I wish we had not adopted him. I do wish I knew what I know now...because I do think we were not prepared for some of the issues that came up.</p><p></p><p>I also keep in mind what a therapist told us when my son was stil lin high school. He said we were a protective factor for my son and I believe that is true. I think our love has made a difference with my son and I am not sure hed still be alive if he had ended up in the foster care system or with a different kind of family. I dont feel my son and I are close but I have hopes that some day that will change but I am accepting it is what it is.</p><p></p><p>And I actually think it would be good and possibly healing if my son met his birth family.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 748714, member: 15801"] Hi Well my marriage has survived for 34 years.... and still going strong. I have two kids, both adopted. My relationship with my daughter is very good and we are close. She is an amazing young woman and doing very well. I dont think her being adopted has hurt our relationshpi at all.I think she wants to meet her birthmother some day and that is fine with me and I will totally support her in doing so. My relationship with my son is much more difficult because of various things he has done and his drug use.I have thought at times our lives would have been much easier if we didnt adopt him. But I also think all that we have been through has made me grow as a person.... and I dont want him out of my life so I cant say that I wish we had not adopted him. I do wish I knew what I know now...because I do think we were not prepared for some of the issues that came up. I also keep in mind what a therapist told us when my son was stil lin high school. He said we were a protective factor for my son and I believe that is true. I think our love has made a difference with my son and I am not sure hed still be alive if he had ended up in the foster care system or with a different kind of family. I dont feel my son and I are close but I have hopes that some day that will change but I am accepting it is what it is. And I actually think it would be good and possibly healing if my son met his birth family. TL [/QUOTE]
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