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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 686928" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Sadparent7, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this, and I can imagine you are completely sick at heart.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you set a boundary with them for leaving your house within a week.</p><p></p><p>Now, the next step is to stick to that boundary no matter what. That is the next hard part.</p><p></p><p>Most of us here have gone down this same road you are now on. We learned, after giving them 1000 chances, and believing them 500 times, that we have to finally stop, let them go, and hope and pray that they grow up on their own.</p><p></p><p>We can't make another person grow up, we can't get them mature any faster than they are going to do it on their own, and by giving them safety nets and allowing behaviors like the one you're dealing with, we prolong their delay into adulthood. They don't have a chance to really face the consequences of their choices and actions...because we don't let them.</p><p></p><p>Your son has done better in the past, but it sounds like he has relapsed and now he seeks out people who participate in the same lifestyle. That's on him, to realize this isn't the life he wants, and start the road to recovery again.</p><p></p><p>We have to learn how to get out of the way so life can help them grow up. That is our challenge, and it is a very hard one.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. You have renewed your focus to let him go. We're here for you during this hard time. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 686928, member: 17542"] Sadparent7, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this, and I can imagine you are completely sick at heart. I'm glad you set a boundary with them for leaving your house within a week. Now, the next step is to stick to that boundary no matter what. That is the next hard part. Most of us here have gone down this same road you are now on. We learned, after giving them 1000 chances, and believing them 500 times, that we have to finally stop, let them go, and hope and pray that they grow up on their own. We can't make another person grow up, we can't get them mature any faster than they are going to do it on their own, and by giving them safety nets and allowing behaviors like the one you're dealing with, we prolong their delay into adulthood. They don't have a chance to really face the consequences of their choices and actions...because we don't let them. Your son has done better in the past, but it sounds like he has relapsed and now he seeks out people who participate in the same lifestyle. That's on him, to realize this isn't the life he wants, and start the road to recovery again. We have to learn how to get out of the way so life can help them grow up. That is our challenge, and it is a very hard one. Hang in there. You have renewed your focus to let him go. We're here for you during this hard time. Warm hugs today. [/QUOTE]
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