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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 758002" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>So that's stealing, and is on her, not on you because you caught her. Her attitude is her problem, and her actions have nothing to do with her attitude towards you. It might be hard for you but if you can it would probably be best if you could let her father deal with the emotional fallout. Otherwise you might take the emotional part on and he will go on to "forgive" her again only for it to happen again. If you have joint finances and it affects you financially also then I'd approach it with him strictly financially and protect yourself because considering it's happen twice it's going to happen again. I would separate finances in a way that will protect you from her thief, not easy, but approached in a business like manner should be doable as long as he is not completely blinded here. Or in a perfect world, he will have her charged as the thief she is.</p><p></p><p></p><p>As for the others, I used to try to get my significant other's children to like me, and they surely treated me as if I was the enemy and an intruder, major disrespect. I think back then I thought it was some sort of requirement that we were a package deal or something and they had to like me, you know because why wouldn't they? I'm a good caring person. Then I read somewhere one day that it's not up to me, and if they never accepted me it's okay, they are separate people and are entitled to their own choices and opinions regardless of my feelings. So I backed off big time accepting they didn't like me (two of the three) and it's okay because it is what it is. If someone would have told me back then how things would be with these two today I would not have believed them, not in a million years. But I got introduced as "my moms" this past weekend by one of them to a friend of hers. This one, she gives me a big heartfelt hug every time I see her. And the other one called me a couple of weeks ago because he was feeling left out of a family event to find out what was up. He forgot he was told about it, and the times were all messed up on it. He didn't call his father or sister but called me, because he was hurt. I was like "dayum!", he called me because he was hurt, someone who he felt comfortable with who would sort it out with him. Go figure. It's so strange how accepting what is makes thing turn into what you wanted all along happens sometimes. It's all about that "letting go" thing, a real letting go with no strings attached.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 758002, member: 22840"] So that's stealing, and is on her, not on you because you caught her. Her attitude is her problem, and her actions have nothing to do with her attitude towards you. It might be hard for you but if you can it would probably be best if you could let her father deal with the emotional fallout. Otherwise you might take the emotional part on and he will go on to "forgive" her again only for it to happen again. If you have joint finances and it affects you financially also then I'd approach it with him strictly financially and protect yourself because considering it's happen twice it's going to happen again. I would separate finances in a way that will protect you from her thief, not easy, but approached in a business like manner should be doable as long as he is not completely blinded here. Or in a perfect world, he will have her charged as the thief she is. As for the others, I used to try to get my significant other's children to like me, and they surely treated me as if I was the enemy and an intruder, major disrespect. I think back then I thought it was some sort of requirement that we were a package deal or something and they had to like me, you know because why wouldn't they? I'm a good caring person. Then I read somewhere one day that it's not up to me, and if they never accepted me it's okay, they are separate people and are entitled to their own choices and opinions regardless of my feelings. So I backed off big time accepting they didn't like me (two of the three) and it's okay because it is what it is. If someone would have told me back then how things would be with these two today I would not have believed them, not in a million years. But I got introduced as "my moms" this past weekend by one of them to a friend of hers. This one, she gives me a big heartfelt hug every time I see her. And the other one called me a couple of weeks ago because he was feeling left out of a family event to find out what was up. He forgot he was told about it, and the times were all messed up on it. He didn't call his father or sister but called me, because he was hurt. I was like "dayum!", he called me because he was hurt, someone who he felt comfortable with who would sort it out with him. Go figure. It's so strange how accepting what is makes thing turn into what you wanted all along happens sometimes. It's all about that "letting go" thing, a real letting go with no strings attached. [/QUOTE]
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