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Adult daughter....abusive ?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 481832" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a different view of this: I raised my kids the way I wanted to. Sometimes I remember giving my mother silly rules they had to follow when they saw my first child. So I pretty much listen to their rules about their kids (well, ok, I have ONE grandchild). I can actually see why daughter would maybe not want you to bring boyfriends around grand. Does she know your friend? If not, it may help if she met him first. </p><p></p><p>Now if Daughter was unmarried, living in your house, taking your money, etc....I would probably tell her I was actually both of their caregivers and I will do what I want to do. But it sounds like she is independent and hub is supporting them well enough that she doesn't have to work. She is a difficult, nervous person and probably controlling and if you confront her too harshly perhaps you will not be allowed to see your grandaughter at all. Is she the type who would punish you this way if you disobeyed her rules? If so, is it worth it to get into a power struggle with her and not see your grandaughter? Has to be your decision. You know your daughter more than we do...you know what she will and won't do and how far she would take a disagreement. </p><p></p><p>I hope you keep posting and let us know how it goes and congrats on grandchild #2 <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 481832, member: 1550"] I have a different view of this: I raised my kids the way I wanted to. Sometimes I remember giving my mother silly rules they had to follow when they saw my first child. So I pretty much listen to their rules about their kids (well, ok, I have ONE grandchild). I can actually see why daughter would maybe not want you to bring boyfriends around grand. Does she know your friend? If not, it may help if she met him first. Now if Daughter was unmarried, living in your house, taking your money, etc....I would probably tell her I was actually both of their caregivers and I will do what I want to do. But it sounds like she is independent and hub is supporting them well enough that she doesn't have to work. She is a difficult, nervous person and probably controlling and if you confront her too harshly perhaps you will not be allowed to see your grandaughter at all. Is she the type who would punish you this way if you disobeyed her rules? If so, is it worth it to get into a power struggle with her and not see your grandaughter? Has to be your decision. You know your daughter more than we do...you know what she will and won't do and how far she would take a disagreement. I hope you keep posting and let us know how it goes and congrats on grandchild #2 :) [/QUOTE]
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