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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 526275" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>When my bro was 16, my mom was going to be nice and wash some clothes for him. She bent to get some socks from under his bed and found 2 rifles there. Now we all have had gun safety classes and have used guns, but my father always keeps them safely locked up and under a bed owned by his 16yo was NOT anyone's idea of safety. Bro has always had some degree of paranoia (tried to make me carry a solid lead pipe in the car when I began to drive -for my safety even though I couldn't lift it - and many other paranoid thoughts. He wanted to 'protect' himself with the guns. One was big enough to actually shoot moose or elephants with - that big a caliber shell required! </p><p></p><p>My parents found that a friend who was 18 bought them for bro and they were FURIOUS and of course took them away. We were not so much afraid he would shoot one of us, but in your situation it seems like a rational fear.</p><p></p><p>There is no way to keep him from getting a gun. Unless you are so crazy you are foaming at the mouth, there is no real background check that is done. the only thng that stops a gun purchase is a felony record because you have a tough time seeing mental illness in a person. Most people can keep it together for the ten or fifteen min to do the paperwork for the background check. Plus it is incredibly easy to buy guns illegally.</p><p></p><p>Is there any way to get restraining orders against him for the family? I would get one if I were you, esp after all the time you spent making him behave lke some semblance of a reasonable human being and not abuse his mother. I owuld also insist it was strictly enforced. You cannot protect his mother if she chooses to have him live with her. If there is a younger sibling livng at his mom's and the sib is under 18, I would get CPS involved. Yes, it won't be popular, but it will be for her/his own good because living in a home with drugs is not safe for ANY child regardless of age. Ditto living with a violent person which I seem to remember he is. </p><p></p><p>Honestly, it is surprising to me that he doesn't already have a gun - around here the dealers mostly do. But this IS OK and guns are super common as is hunting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 526275, member: 1233"] When my bro was 16, my mom was going to be nice and wash some clothes for him. She bent to get some socks from under his bed and found 2 rifles there. Now we all have had gun safety classes and have used guns, but my father always keeps them safely locked up and under a bed owned by his 16yo was NOT anyone's idea of safety. Bro has always had some degree of paranoia (tried to make me carry a solid lead pipe in the car when I began to drive -for my safety even though I couldn't lift it - and many other paranoid thoughts. He wanted to 'protect' himself with the guns. One was big enough to actually shoot moose or elephants with - that big a caliber shell required! My parents found that a friend who was 18 bought them for bro and they were FURIOUS and of course took them away. We were not so much afraid he would shoot one of us, but in your situation it seems like a rational fear. There is no way to keep him from getting a gun. Unless you are so crazy you are foaming at the mouth, there is no real background check that is done. the only thng that stops a gun purchase is a felony record because you have a tough time seeing mental illness in a person. Most people can keep it together for the ten or fifteen min to do the paperwork for the background check. Plus it is incredibly easy to buy guns illegally. Is there any way to get restraining orders against him for the family? I would get one if I were you, esp after all the time you spent making him behave lke some semblance of a reasonable human being and not abuse his mother. I owuld also insist it was strictly enforced. You cannot protect his mother if she chooses to have him live with her. If there is a younger sibling livng at his mom's and the sib is under 18, I would get CPS involved. Yes, it won't be popular, but it will be for her/his own good because living in a home with drugs is not safe for ANY child regardless of age. Ditto living with a violent person which I seem to remember he is. Honestly, it is surprising to me that he doesn't already have a gun - around here the dealers mostly do. But this IS OK and guns are super common as is hunting. [/QUOTE]
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