Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Adult son 33 is homeless, Im Mom, 57, trying so hard to detach, not enable...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 619142" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Lucy, your story is my story. My son has been homeless three times---once for a month, and the last time for 10 days this past Christmas and New Year's. He's back in jail right now---and I'm glad because as his mother, I have comfort knowing he has a roof, a bed and three meals a day. He will be out again soon and who knows? It just keeps getting worse and worse. </p><p></p><p>It IS sad. It's the saddest thing in the world. </p><p></p><p>And it is impossible to grasp and understand. You can drive yourself absolutely crazy trying to figure it out.</p><p></p><p>So...if it's true we didn't cause it, we can't control it and we can't cure it (an Al-Anon saying called the Three Cs)---and I believe that IS the truth, the best thing we can do for us and for them is to STAY OUT OF THE WAY.</p><p></p><p>If he gets sick and tired of this life of his, he will go in a new direction. If he likes that life, then, think about it, there is nothing to do then either.</p><p></p><p>Grieve. Cry. Mourn. </p><p></p><p>Then, turn your energy and your light on yourself and your life. Then, when you need to Grieve, Cry and Mourn again, do it. Do it every time you need to do it.</p><p></p><p>And soon, those times will be fewer and shorter in duration, and the joyful times, the calm times, the times of true peace, will be longer and more frequent.</p><p></p><p>It will take work---work on yourself and through it all, you will discover a better person within you than you ever knew.</p><p></p><p>There are many helps for us just like there are many helps for our adult children. The question is: are we open to the help? Are we going to do the hard work of change?</p><p></p><p>It is worth it. I am doing it, and it is so worth it. Keep coming back here, Lucy, for strength, hope and experience. Bless you and your son today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 619142, member: 17542"] Lucy, your story is my story. My son has been homeless three times---once for a month, and the last time for 10 days this past Christmas and New Year's. He's back in jail right now---and I'm glad because as his mother, I have comfort knowing he has a roof, a bed and three meals a day. He will be out again soon and who knows? It just keeps getting worse and worse. It IS sad. It's the saddest thing in the world. And it is impossible to grasp and understand. You can drive yourself absolutely crazy trying to figure it out. So...if it's true we didn't cause it, we can't control it and we can't cure it (an Al-Anon saying called the Three Cs)---and I believe that IS the truth, the best thing we can do for us and for them is to STAY OUT OF THE WAY. If he gets sick and tired of this life of his, he will go in a new direction. If he likes that life, then, think about it, there is nothing to do then either. Grieve. Cry. Mourn. Then, turn your energy and your light on yourself and your life. Then, when you need to Grieve, Cry and Mourn again, do it. Do it every time you need to do it. And soon, those times will be fewer and shorter in duration, and the joyful times, the calm times, the times of true peace, will be longer and more frequent. It will take work---work on yourself and through it all, you will discover a better person within you than you ever knew. There are many helps for us just like there are many helps for our adult children. The question is: are we open to the help? Are we going to do the hard work of change? It is worth it. I am doing it, and it is so worth it. Keep coming back here, Lucy, for strength, hope and experience. Bless you and your son today. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Adult son 33 is homeless, Im Mom, 57, trying so hard to detach, not enable...
Top