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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 733498" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am thinking maybe he misses his old friends from the neighborhood too. Sometimes they miss them more than us.</p><p></p><p>I think Job corps is better than a three month program for a bed and here is why. Three months is not long enough to learn much and then do well in our homes and the truth is....many of our kids never do well at home. They tend to improve, if they do, away from home. Your son doesn't sound like he has to learn how to behave. He knows. He sounds like he has no interest in behavior, doesn't like rules, and will do what he wants to do. Even homeless shelters have rules or you can be thrown out. Our society has rules for everything.</p><p></p><p>The consequences for those traits are learned more harshly away from us. You are already feeling sorry for him....it is so easy to do this the closer they are.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion the five hour distance is a plus. The problem is the three months. That is short enough a time to pretend all is well, come home and create chaos.</p><p></p><p>To me he does not sound like someone who will do well at home. He was so close to being done at Boys Town yet he royally screwed up. Perhaps he was being sneaky and doing wrong things all along.</p><p></p><p>I hope things start to turn around. You can not forbid him from moving to your home town by the way. He is 18 and he can live in any town he likes. You don't have to let him move into any place you own (it is often hard to get them out with tenant laws) .but if he decides to hang around your town, that is not something you can forbid.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 733498, member: 1550"] I am thinking maybe he misses his old friends from the neighborhood too. Sometimes they miss them more than us. I think Job corps is better than a three month program for a bed and here is why. Three months is not long enough to learn much and then do well in our homes and the truth is....many of our kids never do well at home. They tend to improve, if they do, away from home. Your son doesn't sound like he has to learn how to behave. He knows. He sounds like he has no interest in behavior, doesn't like rules, and will do what he wants to do. Even homeless shelters have rules or you can be thrown out. Our society has rules for everything. The consequences for those traits are learned more harshly away from us. You are already feeling sorry for him....it is so easy to do this the closer they are. in my opinion the five hour distance is a plus. The problem is the three months. That is short enough a time to pretend all is well, come home and create chaos. To me he does not sound like someone who will do well at home. He was so close to being done at Boys Town yet he royally screwed up. Perhaps he was being sneaky and doing wrong things all along. I hope things start to turn around. You can not forbid him from moving to your home town by the way. He is 18 and he can live in any town he likes. You don't have to let him move into any place you own (it is often hard to get them out with tenant laws) .but if he decides to hang around your town, that is not something you can forbid. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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