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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 697721" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The severity of our kids is due to YEARS of many unstable placements, probable abuse and the first three years being chaos.</p><p></p><p>GN, I had some attachment disorder too as my mother refused to hold and cuddle me. But I did have my grandma and, in the end, I can love. I didnt want to kill animals or sexually act out ir harm others. very different.</p><p></p><p>Our kids (OP and mine) can not love. They have rejected love. The majority of foster children who have been in multi family placements do very badly in the longrun. The first three years the brain becomes hardwired and its very hard to rewire it, especially if the child isnt interested in changing.</p><p></p><p>Malika, severe attachment disorder IS psychopathy. It is unsafe for them to be in the community. Many people who try to adopt older kids who have had many placements face this. True reactive attachment disorder is unusual in the control population, but it is NOT uncommon amongst older foster/adopted kids who have had many placements. In my adoptive parenting group I heard these stories all the time. If you have pets or other kids or one parent can't stay home with the child 24/7, it is almost possible to keep a child with no conscience in check. They need 24/7 supervision.</p><p></p><p>I am so afraid our boy, now 22, is abusing his daughters. They can not keep these people like our boy in treatment beyond age 18. God knows all he has done since then.</p><p></p><p>I doubt this now young man was treatable either</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 697721, member: 1550"] The severity of our kids is due to YEARS of many unstable placements, probable abuse and the first three years being chaos. GN, I had some attachment disorder too as my mother refused to hold and cuddle me. But I did have my grandma and, in the end, I can love. I didnt want to kill animals or sexually act out ir harm others. very different. Our kids (OP and mine) can not love. They have rejected love. The majority of foster children who have been in multi family placements do very badly in the longrun. The first three years the brain becomes hardwired and its very hard to rewire it, especially if the child isnt interested in changing. Malika, severe attachment disorder IS psychopathy. It is unsafe for them to be in the community. Many people who try to adopt older kids who have had many placements face this. True reactive attachment disorder is unusual in the control population, but it is NOT uncommon amongst older foster/adopted kids who have had many placements. In my adoptive parenting group I heard these stories all the time. If you have pets or other kids or one parent can't stay home with the child 24/7, it is almost possible to keep a child with no conscience in check. They need 24/7 supervision. I am so afraid our boy, now 22, is abusing his daughters. They can not keep these people like our boy in treatment beyond age 18. God knows all he has done since then. I doubt this now young man was treatable either [/QUOTE]
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