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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 697917" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>Actually, agencies actively not only lie, but conspire across agencies to cover up issues with these kids, especially that kids have failed foster care placements, etc.</p><p></p><p>In the case of infants, you may not be told that the birthmother abused alcohol or other drugs during her pregnancy, or that she was mentally ill, or intellectually disabled. Even less information is available about birth fathers.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I looked into adopting while in Germany, after we found out that my infertility couldn't be treated there. I was able to get ahold of several German studies on adoption outcomes, and (In German, no less!) a couple of American and UK studies.</p><p></p><p>Knowing that we couldn't afford to adopt privately, or use a surrogate (husband was so fertile he could've been turned out to stud), we knew we would most likely wind up raising a compromised child which would've been very difficult with the limited support the DoD provided to families with children with mental or neurobiological illnesses. It also would've ended husband's career when his next re-up came around.</p><p></p><p>The information I gathered on public adoptions during that time period was enough to turn me off of adoption, despite all heartwarming stories the kindly nuns at the orphanages kept telling me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 697917, member: 1963"] Actually, agencies actively not only lie, but conspire across agencies to cover up issues with these kids, especially that kids have failed foster care placements, etc. In the case of infants, you may not be told that the birthmother abused alcohol or other drugs during her pregnancy, or that she was mentally ill, or intellectually disabled. Even less information is available about birth fathers. My husband and I looked into adopting while in Germany, after we found out that my infertility couldn't be treated there. I was able to get ahold of several German studies on adoption outcomes, and (In German, no less!) a couple of American and UK studies. Knowing that we couldn't afford to adopt privately, or use a surrogate (husband was so fertile he could've been turned out to stud), we knew we would most likely wind up raising a compromised child which would've been very difficult with the limited support the DoD provided to families with children with mental or neurobiological illnesses. It also would've ended husband's career when his next re-up came around. The information I gathered on public adoptions during that time period was enough to turn me off of adoption, despite all heartwarming stories the kindly nuns at the orphanages kept telling me. [/QUOTE]
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