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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 608776" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hi HosLaw and welcome to the forum. Well, I can tell you that in many respects your son sounds extremely similar to mine, also adopted as a very young baby. Not in all respects, of course - my son definitely has a problem with rage and anger, and can be explosive. I would say he does also have some form of sensory problem just in that he is really sensitive to seams in socks, things that rub against him, loud noises, etc. Like yours, however, and particularly when he was younger, my son was very bright, charismatic, engaging and also difficult to handle in many settings. The wandering of by himself when in group settings was identical to your son. For ages people agonised over a diagnosis for him... basically I and the professionals hummed and hawed because of various factors (eg he "concentrated" too well, etc). He is now nearly 7, has received two ADHD diagnoses and clearly fits the bill. In his case, and without wanting to depress you, obviously, the symptoms and the ADHD-ness have actually got worse and more evident with time. He is hyperactive, very impulsive and his attention capacity has decreased. He somehow manages at school though he's had rather an odd school career. He chatters non-stop and much of it is engaging, funny "nonsense" that bears no reality to the known world <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>So where does this leave you? I have so far resisted ADHD medications (apart from a disastrous 2 day experiment with a Ritalin variant, with horrible side effects) but I think remain open to them in the longer term. I feel you are right to be very cautious at this stage and at the age of five.</p><p>Have you thought of, and would it be financially possible for you to consider, an alternative school? One of my regrets - there are always regrets, right? - is that I did not put him in an alternative school from an early age.</p><p>Just a few thoughts... really nobody can diagnose over the internet and it's a dangerous practice, but your chap does sound very like ADHD or something... and the something could be fetal alcohol effects, for example. With adopted children there are so many unknowns. One last bit of advice I would give is that I would try to seek out imaginative, human professionals who can see the qualities and brightness of your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 608776, member: 11227"] Hi HosLaw and welcome to the forum. Well, I can tell you that in many respects your son sounds extremely similar to mine, also adopted as a very young baby. Not in all respects, of course - my son definitely has a problem with rage and anger, and can be explosive. I would say he does also have some form of sensory problem just in that he is really sensitive to seams in socks, things that rub against him, loud noises, etc. Like yours, however, and particularly when he was younger, my son was very bright, charismatic, engaging and also difficult to handle in many settings. The wandering of by himself when in group settings was identical to your son. For ages people agonised over a diagnosis for him... basically I and the professionals hummed and hawed because of various factors (eg he "concentrated" too well, etc). He is now nearly 7, has received two ADHD diagnoses and clearly fits the bill. In his case, and without wanting to depress you, obviously, the symptoms and the ADHD-ness have actually got worse and more evident with time. He is hyperactive, very impulsive and his attention capacity has decreased. He somehow manages at school though he's had rather an odd school career. He chatters non-stop and much of it is engaging, funny "nonsense" that bears no reality to the known world :) So where does this leave you? I have so far resisted ADHD medications (apart from a disastrous 2 day experiment with a Ritalin variant, with horrible side effects) but I think remain open to them in the longer term. I feel you are right to be very cautious at this stage and at the age of five. Have you thought of, and would it be financially possible for you to consider, an alternative school? One of my regrets - there are always regrets, right? - is that I did not put him in an alternative school from an early age. Just a few thoughts... really nobody can diagnose over the internet and it's a dangerous practice, but your chap does sound very like ADHD or something... and the something could be fetal alcohol effects, for example. With adopted children there are so many unknowns. One last bit of advice I would give is that I would try to seek out imaginative, human professionals who can see the qualities and brightness of your son. [/QUOTE]
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