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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 231133" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Does difficult child have an IEP? If so, call a meeting and have it added that Miss smarty pants Special Education teacher MUST meet with difficult child 15 minutes prior to dismissal to ensure that he has all his assignments, etc. Another option is that he be given a late study hall with homework assistance. A third is that homework is modified or eliminated.</p><p> </p><p>Next, keep a journal for a week of everything you do: cleaning, laundry, food prep, bills, work sleep, homework battles, school, appointments, etc. If you are doing it then it gets written down. Then go through and highlight what is not essentially yours to do; some examples are emptying the dishwasher, cooking, cleaning, laundry, trash, groceries, snow removal, etc. </p><p> </p><p>Then you notify difficult child and husband that you cannot do these things any longer and that they must figure out between them just who will be responsible for what. Your going to need to let your standards drop (trust me!) but you simply cannot maintain much longer. Kjs, the sky is falling.</p><p> </p><p>Map out consequences such as no food if shopping isn't done, no dishes if dishwasher isn't filled, no clean clothes, etc. I suggest, though, that you do your own laundry. This is from personal experience. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/winks.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":winks:" title="winks :winks:" data-shortname=":winks:" /></p><p> </p><p>Kjs, husband is a grown man. He needs to be told to stand up and set a good example for his son. difficult child is getting too close to being an adult to not start taking care of his basic needs.</p><p> </p><p>As for homework, school & failing.... I can understand you not wanting him to fail. No parent would ever want that. Your going to need to find a way to get difficult child invested in his education. You can't do it for him. {{{Hugs}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 231133, member: 1722"] Does difficult child have an IEP? If so, call a meeting and have it added that Miss smarty pants Special Education teacher MUST meet with difficult child 15 minutes prior to dismissal to ensure that he has all his assignments, etc. Another option is that he be given a late study hall with homework assistance. A third is that homework is modified or eliminated. Next, keep a journal for a week of everything you do: cleaning, laundry, food prep, bills, work sleep, homework battles, school, appointments, etc. If you are doing it then it gets written down. Then go through and highlight what is not essentially yours to do; some examples are emptying the dishwasher, cooking, cleaning, laundry, trash, groceries, snow removal, etc. Then you notify difficult child and husband that you cannot do these things any longer and that they must figure out between them just who will be responsible for what. Your going to need to let your standards drop (trust me!) but you simply cannot maintain much longer. Kjs, the sky is falling. Map out consequences such as no food if shopping isn't done, no dishes if dishwasher isn't filled, no clean clothes, etc. I suggest, though, that you do your own laundry. This is from personal experience. :winks: Kjs, husband is a grown man. He needs to be told to stand up and set a good example for his son. difficult child is getting too close to being an adult to not start taking care of his basic needs. As for homework, school & failing.... I can understand you not wanting him to fail. No parent would ever want that. Your going to need to find a way to get difficult child invested in his education. You can't do it for him. {{{Hugs}}} [/QUOTE]
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