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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 231209" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I think (and I care very much about you) that you are doing MORE of a pity party NOW for yourself than you would if you just did what you KNOW you should do. (been there done that got up and left) </p><p> </p><p>Did I KNOW what would become of my son? Nope - I hoped for the best, did what I could and prayed a lot. It wasn't easy, but it was better than killing myself. And difficult child adjusted - actually had I not LEFT? He'd be dead or in jail and so would I. When I was IN that relationship I couldn't see that I wasn't doing the best thing for myself which ultimately is doing the worst thing for my son. After I got to counseling, and made a plan to leave? I felt renewed. When I left I felt scared to death. A month after I left I had regrets because I was sleeping in a van with a kid and had no home, money or help. Ten years after? I own a house, 2 cars, furniture I can take out in my yard and burn if I want - clothes, and because I had my head screwed on straight I found a man that I was attracted to and was attracted to me for my bRAINs....really. The rest was just understood because I told him up front what I expected and KNEW from therapy and life what I would and would NOT tolerate. </p><p> </p><p>You are a strong woman. You're a good mom. You screwed up, you said things you didn't mean. Apologize and move on. Yes, you said really bad things - WHO doesn't? They need to get OVER the ONE mistake you make in a year vs. how they treat you like a door mat and you allow them to every day. </p><p> </p><p>Tell them to stop throwing stones - unless they want me to bring a dump truck of gravel to your house and have the entire CD board sit there and toss a stone at them every time they mistreat OUR friend (YOU) </p><p> </p><p>Thinking about you again today - wanted to let you know. </p><p>I'm very proud of you for coming here and opening up with this - it couldn't have been easy, but it was a step in the right direction. </p><p> </p><p>HUGGED ya again</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 231209, member: 4964"] I think (and I care very much about you) that you are doing MORE of a pity party NOW for yourself than you would if you just did what you KNOW you should do. (been there done that got up and left) Did I KNOW what would become of my son? Nope - I hoped for the best, did what I could and prayed a lot. It wasn't easy, but it was better than killing myself. And difficult child adjusted - actually had I not LEFT? He'd be dead or in jail and so would I. When I was IN that relationship I couldn't see that I wasn't doing the best thing for myself which ultimately is doing the worst thing for my son. After I got to counseling, and made a plan to leave? I felt renewed. When I left I felt scared to death. A month after I left I had regrets because I was sleeping in a van with a kid and had no home, money or help. Ten years after? I own a house, 2 cars, furniture I can take out in my yard and burn if I want - clothes, and because I had my head screwed on straight I found a man that I was attracted to and was attracted to me for my bRAINs....really. The rest was just understood because I told him up front what I expected and KNEW from therapy and life what I would and would NOT tolerate. You are a strong woman. You're a good mom. You screwed up, you said things you didn't mean. Apologize and move on. Yes, you said really bad things - WHO doesn't? They need to get OVER the ONE mistake you make in a year vs. how they treat you like a door mat and you allow them to every day. Tell them to stop throwing stones - unless they want me to bring a dump truck of gravel to your house and have the entire CD board sit there and toss a stone at them every time they mistreat OUR friend (YOU) Thinking about you again today - wanted to let you know. I'm very proud of you for coming here and opening up with this - it couldn't have been easy, but it was a step in the right direction. HUGGED ya again Star [/QUOTE]
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