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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 678833" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Thank you Cedar the chart is awesome.</p><p></p><p>The reason I asked about degrees of narcissism is because I see a lot of these traits in sis, but she also has a goodness about her, a<em> lovableness</em>.</p><p></p><p>I don't think I am covering things up or denying the bullying that I suffered as a child. It was awful.</p><p></p><p>The worst part of it is that it made me question myself, have self doubts, I think I was probably on high alert, most of the time. When I let my guard down and trusted my sibs, thats when the rug would be pulled again.</p><p></p><p>I don't know why the focus was on me, to stop reacting as I did (crying). Or I was constantly told to "just ignore it." I think <em>part of</em> the answer is that only recently there are articles about sibling bullying and the affects on the victim. Well, duhhhhhh, of course the targeted child is affected, there is NO place to run to when one is repeatedly mistreated by their sibling.</p><p></p><p>I will be thinking of this.........the clock is ticking and I have to get ready for work.</p><p></p><p>One thing that I have thought of often, is the <em>times we were raised in</em>. How much that plays into all of this. I think the 50's and 60's were strange times....</p><p></p><p>Have you ever watched the show "Madmen" ? Hubs watched it a lot. I think he was stuck in that fantasy of when men really had the upper hand....lol. Try again hubs......times have really changed. Thank the good Lord for that.</p><p></p><p>Watching "Madmen" a bit and seeing all of the props and costumes really took me down memory lane.</p><p></p><p>I don't know about you guys, but it seems that <em>everything just had to be perfect</em>. Perfectly coiffed wives,</p><p>husbands in suits and ties,</p><p>perfectly kept homes</p><p>and yards.</p><p></p><p>Women got dressed up to go <em>everywhere.</em>........</p><p></p><p>Could this emphasis on perfectionism and having to be happy all of the time fueled the fire, for what we experienced growing up?</p><p></p><p>It is food for thought for me today, especially in light of the fact that one of the things that disturbed my dad intensely in his last days, was that he was not perfect.</p><p></p><p>How much of what our parents portrayed in their daily lives was role, and not real?</p><p></p><p>How much work and effort that must have been, to keep to societies standards of that day?</p><p></p><p>Am I off on another tangent?</p><p></p><p>Okay, got to go.</p><p></p><p>Have a great day</p><p></p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 678833, member: 19522"] Thank you Cedar the chart is awesome. The reason I asked about degrees of narcissism is because I see a lot of these traits in sis, but she also has a goodness about her, a[I] lovableness[/I]. I don't think I am covering things up or denying the bullying that I suffered as a child. It was awful. The worst part of it is that it made me question myself, have self doubts, I think I was probably on high alert, most of the time. When I let my guard down and trusted my sibs, thats when the rug would be pulled again. I don't know why the focus was on me, to stop reacting as I did (crying). Or I was constantly told to "just ignore it." I think [I]part of[/I] the answer is that only recently there are articles about sibling bullying and the affects on the victim. Well, duhhhhhh, of course the targeted child is affected, there is NO place to run to when one is repeatedly mistreated by their sibling. I will be thinking of this.........the clock is ticking and I have to get ready for work. One thing that I have thought of often, is the [I]times we were raised in[/I]. How much that plays into all of this. I think the 50's and 60's were strange times.... Have you ever watched the show "Madmen" ? Hubs watched it a lot. I think he was stuck in that fantasy of when men really had the upper hand....lol. Try again hubs......times have really changed. Thank the good Lord for that. Watching "Madmen" a bit and seeing all of the props and costumes really took me down memory lane. I don't know about you guys, but it seems that [I]everything just had to be perfect[/I]. Perfectly coiffed wives, husbands in suits and ties, perfectly kept homes and yards. Women got dressed up to go [I]everywhere.[/I]........ Could this emphasis on perfectionism and having to be happy all of the time fueled the fire, for what we experienced growing up? It is food for thought for me today, especially in light of the fact that one of the things that disturbed my dad intensely in his last days, was that he was not perfect. How much of what our parents portrayed in their daily lives was role, and not real? How much work and effort that must have been, to keep to societies standards of that day? Am I off on another tangent? Okay, got to go. Have a great day leafy [/QUOTE]
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