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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 679200" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Do you know whose voice it is telling you that the way you are is wrong, Leafy? </p><p></p><p>Do you know why you believe them? </p><p></p><p>What does the term "hypersensitive" mean, for you? To be sensitive or hypersensitive, or even, not very sensitive at all is not a bad thing. However we are, we are. A musician is hypersensitive to sound, an artist to color and form and light. Those who are blind develop hypersensitivity to touch and scent and tone and humidity and all kinds of things, to compensate for the loss of vision. Dancers develop hypersensitivity to their own bodies, to their own muscles, and to the emotional tones in sound.</p><p></p><p>Think of Barishnikov, of the strength and magic in him when he is in motion. </p><p></p><p>Yet you seem to believe your own sensitivity is something to wish were different. It's as though you were a pink flower taught to condemn herself because she isn't blue.</p><p></p><p>What if you were to welcome and cherish and celebrate the color of flower you are. That would be internal locus of control. Feeling badly for the way we intrinsically are has to do with an external locus of control. It is a slow process to regain internal locus of control, but it begins (I think it begins) with realizing there are places in us, ways we think automatically, that are leftover thought patterns. Even if they are good thought patterns, it may be time to rethink them. If they are bad thought patterns having to do with self-condemnation, it is our responsibility to rethink them.</p><p></p><p>I am thinking your belief that you are too sensitive is like that, Leafy.</p><p></p><p>You simply are as you are. For each of us, it is an honor to be just as we are. If we have dishonored ourselves or been dishonored (and we all have ~ we've been mistaken, we've had a bad day, we've been a real jerk ~ whatever it is) then we need to remind ourselves, like Maya Angelou did, too, that when we know better, we do better.</p><p></p><p>Toxic guilt, like toxic shame, freezes us into rigidity. We thaw little by little by little, until we are fully alive in our own present moment.</p><p></p><p>And everything looks so different, and so clear. Even the ugly things are just what they are.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 679200, member: 17461"] Do you know whose voice it is telling you that the way you are is wrong, Leafy? Do you know why you believe them? What does the term "hypersensitive" mean, for you? To be sensitive or hypersensitive, or even, not very sensitive at all is not a bad thing. However we are, we are. A musician is hypersensitive to sound, an artist to color and form and light. Those who are blind develop hypersensitivity to touch and scent and tone and humidity and all kinds of things, to compensate for the loss of vision. Dancers develop hypersensitivity to their own bodies, to their own muscles, and to the emotional tones in sound. Think of Barishnikov, of the strength and magic in him when he is in motion. Yet you seem to believe your own sensitivity is something to wish were different. It's as though you were a pink flower taught to condemn herself because she isn't blue. What if you were to welcome and cherish and celebrate the color of flower you are. That would be internal locus of control. Feeling badly for the way we intrinsically are has to do with an external locus of control. It is a slow process to regain internal locus of control, but it begins (I think it begins) with realizing there are places in us, ways we think automatically, that are leftover thought patterns. Even if they are good thought patterns, it may be time to rethink them. If they are bad thought patterns having to do with self-condemnation, it is our responsibility to rethink them. I am thinking your belief that you are too sensitive is like that, Leafy. You simply are as you are. For each of us, it is an honor to be just as we are. If we have dishonored ourselves or been dishonored (and we all have ~ we've been mistaken, we've had a bad day, we've been a real jerk ~ whatever it is) then we need to remind ourselves, like Maya Angelou did, too, that when we know better, we do better. Toxic guilt, like toxic shame, freezes us into rigidity. We thaw little by little by little, until we are fully alive in our own present moment. And everything looks so different, and so clear. Even the ugly things are just what they are. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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