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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 679272" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>I love this post.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh, Copa. This means ~ that we can see it ~ means we are undoing it.</p><p></p><p>Sacred ground.</p><p></p><p>I would say not eunuchs. I would say we were taught that any power was grounds for an attack by the Witch Mother. That any power, any value (writing ability; the capacity to think, even) was where they would destroy us. Throughout our lives then Copa, we will have never once laid claim to any strength. Not beauty. Not sexuality. (How well does this fit with beautiful young females at the mercy of the narcissists of the world.) </p><p></p><p>They did that to us, Copa.</p><p></p><p>But more and more, they are just who they are. We are reclaiming ourselves. All these good and strengthening parts of who we are that we were afraid to access, Copa...these too will come through now, legitimate.</p><p></p><p>I love this post.</p><p></p><p>I could not have thought it on my own.</p><p></p><p>Thank you, Copa.</p><p></p><p>I am feeling these new ways of feeling, a little bit. When I say I have been sitting with the feelings. But Copa, I haven't been able to name the feelings. Or to anticipate or shape these new awakenings.</p><p></p><p>It always seems we must have come into full repossession of self. </p><p></p><p>And then, we burst through into another reality altogether.</p><p></p><p>This was lovely, Copa.</p><p></p><p>I feel incredibly ~ like, I had no idea that is where we were going next.</p><p></p><p>Good work, Copa.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Yay for us.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think Hilary is alot like the sisters. </p><p></p><p>Copa, I think you do not hate the sister. You hate yourself for her. I found legitimacy in hating myself for my sister through fully accepting the pseudo mom role. My sister hates me because <em>and somehow, whatever the because was and however obvious it was that my sister is who she is, I just kept circling through that same morass. That it was okay for someone we know to hate us to tell us they love us and stab us in the back and we think that is fine.</em></p><p></p><p>I feel badly for me.</p><p></p><p>I should have run away from home when I was five, like I did. But I had nowhere to go. I still would have been better off.</p><p></p><p>What if Dolly had never escaped the brutal owners, Copa? what if she had not risked everything, even being hit by a car, to get away.</p><p></p><p>Who would poor Dolly think she was, today.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 679272, member: 17461"] Yes. I love this post. Oh, Copa. This means ~ that we can see it ~ means we are undoing it. Sacred ground. I would say not eunuchs. I would say we were taught that any power was grounds for an attack by the Witch Mother. That any power, any value (writing ability; the capacity to think, even) was where they would destroy us. Throughout our lives then Copa, we will have never once laid claim to any strength. Not beauty. Not sexuality. (How well does this fit with beautiful young females at the mercy of the narcissists of the world.) They did that to us, Copa. But more and more, they are just who they are. We are reclaiming ourselves. All these good and strengthening parts of who we are that we were afraid to access, Copa...these too will come through now, legitimate. I love this post. I could not have thought it on my own. Thank you, Copa. I am feeling these new ways of feeling, a little bit. When I say I have been sitting with the feelings. But Copa, I haven't been able to name the feelings. Or to anticipate or shape these new awakenings. It always seems we must have come into full repossession of self. And then, we burst through into another reality altogether. This was lovely, Copa. I feel incredibly ~ like, I had no idea that is where we were going next. Good work, Copa. :O) Yay for us. *** I think Hilary is alot like the sisters. Copa, I think you do not hate the sister. You hate yourself for her. I found legitimacy in hating myself for my sister through fully accepting the pseudo mom role. My sister hates me because [I]and somehow, whatever the because was and however obvious it was that my sister is who she is, I just kept circling through that same morass. That it was okay for someone we know to hate us to tell us they love us and stab us in the back and we think that is fine.[/I] I feel badly for me. I should have run away from home when I was five, like I did. But I had nowhere to go. I still would have been better off. What if Dolly had never escaped the brutal owners, Copa? what if she had not risked everything, even being hit by a car, to get away. Who would poor Dolly think she was, today. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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