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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 432085" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>I've found that when kids that young are using potty language it's because they are hearing it somewhere, and often. "normally" my kids don't swear, and even correct me on the milder swear words. A few months ago a started getting complaints from friends' parents that DD1 was swearing. I was shocked to say the least. DD1 knew it was wrong, but it somehow became a habit for her. Fortunately I found out quickly enough that it was coming from our 19yo babysitter. I had a talk with her (I must have been really stressed because theis lovely girl talked like a truck driver, and I completely overlooked it), and she's corrected her language, and now DD1 doesn't rely on such language "shortcuts" any more. by the way, son's first 2 words were cookie and milk. His 3rd was S***. husband looked at each other and cleaned up our act right then and there.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Phrases like these are "absolutes" Many kids use them. I always tried to correct them in the moment. I don't like what you did, that, etc. I'm not happy with you right now. Unfortunately much of it has to do with learnign how to socialize with peers, and I have no advice there (still struggling to find help for my kids in that area because I'm not comfortable in that area)</p><p></p><p>As for that manipulative and unpleasant stuff, I think it's great you did not take it personally - that's exactly how I would have handled it. It does seem. very sophisticated for a 4 year old, but not surprising. You did not say how you responded to the comment. The rare times mine have "threatened" something like this, I tell them that I hope they don't because I would miss them too much, but I don't see how I could stop them. Then there are the times that they call me mean and say I'm a bad mom to try and get their way. I tell them they can go find a new mom. that usually shocks them to reality. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 432085, member: 11965"] I've found that when kids that young are using potty language it's because they are hearing it somewhere, and often. "normally" my kids don't swear, and even correct me on the milder swear words. A few months ago a started getting complaints from friends' parents that DD1 was swearing. I was shocked to say the least. DD1 knew it was wrong, but it somehow became a habit for her. Fortunately I found out quickly enough that it was coming from our 19yo babysitter. I had a talk with her (I must have been really stressed because theis lovely girl talked like a truck driver, and I completely overlooked it), and she's corrected her language, and now DD1 doesn't rely on such language "shortcuts" any more. by the way, son's first 2 words were cookie and milk. His 3rd was S***. husband looked at each other and cleaned up our act right then and there. Phrases like these are "absolutes" Many kids use them. I always tried to correct them in the moment. I don't like what you did, that, etc. I'm not happy with you right now. Unfortunately much of it has to do with learnign how to socialize with peers, and I have no advice there (still struggling to find help for my kids in that area because I'm not comfortable in that area) As for that manipulative and unpleasant stuff, I think it's great you did not take it personally - that's exactly how I would have handled it. It does seem. very sophisticated for a 4 year old, but not surprising. You did not say how you responded to the comment. The rare times mine have "threatened" something like this, I tell them that I hope they don't because I would miss them too much, but I don't see how I could stop them. Then there are the times that they call me mean and say I'm a bad mom to try and get their way. I tell them they can go find a new mom. that usually shocks them to reality. :winking: [/QUOTE]
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