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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 432101" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>He must have heard it at school, from the other kids. The two childminders he has occasionally certainly do not regale him with phrases such as "Stinky bottom!" or "Poo-poo willy" (rough translations) <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> The difference between him and other children is that he uses this language in front of adults... I think it's the oppositional thing. He knows this is forbidden territory so he wants to go there. </p><p>I didn't respond to his unpleasant remarks with anger or heat because to do so would have been acting as though he was an adult - ie making a volitional and nasty statement. He is a child using crude tactics to try to force me, childishly, into getting what he wants and "punish" me for not giving it to him... It does all remind me of my ex-husband when he was in full glory and there is something about J that is like him - they certainly have a strong chemistry. He was too young when I left his father to consciously remember any of what happened between us but... as we know, children pick up far more on some other, non-conscious level than we probably realise.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 432101, member: 11227"] He must have heard it at school, from the other kids. The two childminders he has occasionally certainly do not regale him with phrases such as "Stinky bottom!" or "Poo-poo willy" (rough translations) :-) The difference between him and other children is that he uses this language in front of adults... I think it's the oppositional thing. He knows this is forbidden territory so he wants to go there. I didn't respond to his unpleasant remarks with anger or heat because to do so would have been acting as though he was an adult - ie making a volitional and nasty statement. He is a child using crude tactics to try to force me, childishly, into getting what he wants and "punish" me for not giving it to him... It does all remind me of my ex-husband when he was in full glory and there is something about J that is like him - they certainly have a strong chemistry. He was too young when I left his father to consciously remember any of what happened between us but... as we know, children pick up far more on some other, non-conscious level than we probably realise. [/QUOTE]
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