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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 657472" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>A bit more now that I'm off the cell phone (boy, that thing finds way to translate words you typed into nonsense...lol).</p><p></p><p>Short version: Your daughter is behaving like an alcoholic who probably also takes other drugs (thus the psychotic thoughts she was throwing out at you). But you probably will never know exactly what she takes until she quits and then she may be chatty about it. Right now all you know is you can't live like this and I know how it feels and I'm so sorry.</p><p></p><p>Do you have other kids around? If so, you have to think about them too.</p><p></p><p>You can't fix an adult child. It's not legal. THEY have to do it and often we have to make them leave and even sometimes be homeless and CUT OFF THE MONEY TREE before they someday see the light. It often happens. Some never see the light, but there is hope as your daughter is young. Don't wait until she is 30 to decide to do these things. Then her pattern of life is to abuse and not work and be helpless. She will survive. #1 recommendation is to cut out off the bank. You supporting her gives her no reason to change. No motivation. She is old enough to work. If sh e is truly sick, then she can go to Aging and Disability and request an assessment for social security. She may get it, she may not. She sounds bad enough to get it to me, but I don't make the decisions. </p><p></p><p>If she gets into trouble with the law, don't bail her out. Facing consequences is very impportant or it delays any recovery that may happen. So does us enabling their decision not to seek serious help for themselves.</p><p></p><p>You and your husband may want to go to Al-Anon. It's free and it got me through the very worst of times.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart. Be nice to YOURSELF today, ok? You deserve it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 657472, member: 1550"] A bit more now that I'm off the cell phone (boy, that thing finds way to translate words you typed into nonsense...lol). Short version: Your daughter is behaving like an alcoholic who probably also takes other drugs (thus the psychotic thoughts she was throwing out at you). But you probably will never know exactly what she takes until she quits and then she may be chatty about it. Right now all you know is you can't live like this and I know how it feels and I'm so sorry. Do you have other kids around? If so, you have to think about them too. You can't fix an adult child. It's not legal. THEY have to do it and often we have to make them leave and even sometimes be homeless and CUT OFF THE MONEY TREE before they someday see the light. It often happens. Some never see the light, but there is hope as your daughter is young. Don't wait until she is 30 to decide to do these things. Then her pattern of life is to abuse and not work and be helpless. She will survive. #1 recommendation is to cut out off the bank. You supporting her gives her no reason to change. No motivation. She is old enough to work. If sh e is truly sick, then she can go to Aging and Disability and request an assessment for social security. She may get it, she may not. She sounds bad enough to get it to me, but I don't make the decisions. If she gets into trouble with the law, don't bail her out. Facing consequences is very impportant or it delays any recovery that may happen. So does us enabling their decision not to seek serious help for themselves. You and your husband may want to go to Al-Anon. It's free and it got me through the very worst of times. Hugs for your hurting heart. Be nice to YOURSELF today, ok? You deserve it. [/QUOTE]
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